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| Taintedinnocence |
on Mon 31 May 10, 4:42 PM to the O_and_P group.
I was just wondering the other night. How much of a role does pain have in your relationship?
In ours, since He is a sadist and I am a sort of pleasure/pain wimp/masochist it serves to punish me, for His enjoyment and to ensure I know that I am His - and if He wants to make me suffer He can (god that makes me hot but in reality it can be owchy!).
We also do erotic pain sometimes of which I am a big fan, but that is a bit of a treat for me 
But how is it used in others relationships?
| 2 Jun 10, 9:01 AM esmerelda42 UK(CT), 20 mths |
Yes, my Master is a sadist too. He uses pain for both our enjoyment (mainly His) but i am a bit of a massochist also. He does punish me and then its serious! And yes, there are a few things i really love that are a treat, like a beautiful leather flogger He has. Interesting this one, i was naive enough to think that pain was part of most/all M/s relationships. |
| 2 Jun 10, 9:20 AM De_Luxe UK, 5 yrs |
Pain has the same role for us and is a mutually bonding act as he can take pleasure in knowing that I get enjoyment from the performance. It is possibly the most demanding part of his service too and serves to confirm the completeness of ownership because he has no choice or control over it. I think he can find a sense of fulfilment and pride in being the one chosen to occupy the role. |
| 4 Jun 10, 10:06 PM sirsangel UK, 6 yrs |
Pain actually doesn't play a big part in our relationship. Control is the main thing. However although I do not enjoy pain, well......lets say it serves a purpose!
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| 23 Jul 10, 12:09 PM Persia_Porsche UK(EH), 3 yrs |
I'm still considering how I'd like to go forward with this. I'm specifically interested in developing his pleasure from pain as this is something I'm more experienced with and am keen to develop, and so am a little reluctant to use pain for punishment as I'd like to steer clear of the negative associations it could give. I also think that there are often many better ways available, in our relationship, than delivering pain when discipline is required. What's important, and applies throughgout our relationship, is that he knows I can and will if I so choose to use pain in this way. As he also knows that I may freely decide to use him purely to satisfy my own desire to deliver pain. However as I said, so far I've decided I'd rather not I really enjoy his knowing that I may choose to use pain in any way that I desire and think it's an important part of the power exchange.
Giving pain is a serious business. |
| 8 Aug 10, 6:51 PM successfu1 5 yrs |
I've always said I CAN take a beating but not without a reason. I'm NOT a masochist and I dont enjoy pain. I do like a dynamic where it is an acceptable control tool and mechanism and find it serves a useful purpose to 'bed down' the relationship. |
| 9 Aug 10, 12:30 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs      |
Definately control is more important than pain. But, more recently, I find myself taking distinct pleasure in hurting her - and she likes the mood I'm in when i'm a little bit cruel. The play,rather thena punishment pain, is still a celebration of our relationship, rather than an end in itself - but I am finding it even more satisfyng now than I used to. My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) |
| 9 Aug 10, 1:34 PM guinevere888 UK(TN), 23 mths |
I just realised how important it is to me . After recently playing with some one who was more keen on the humiliation/mental side of things . I realised that the whole experience without pain which was hard to bear , didn't really put me in that nice subby feeling . The humiliation aspects , looking back on , make me cringe , but at the time I suppose lack of physical reinforcement made it all seem quite funny , and just like a game . I'd never thought of myself as masochist , but maybe that's what I'm becoming . Pain hurts big time , but wihout it , it just doesn't make a complete experience . The lack made me aware how much I crave it .now realise I need to do some thinking to find out exactly what my needs and goals are , and how best to meet them . |
