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| Sat 29 May 10, 10:00 PM DaniJo UK(HR), 5 yrs   |
Recently, my rather wonderful girlfriend has been giving me the (questionable) treat of a good whipping. There is some light bondage involved (a dressing-gown belt, tied with skills learned in the scouts, is formidable) but generally seems to entail me hopping desperately about the room while being striped with a dressage whip. I've been spanked, paddled, and belted once or twice before, and I admit, that I am a real squeaker - I yelp, and squirm, and generally make a big fuss, while <wanting> to be hit harder, but knowing that any more noise would mean the neighbours calling the police. I wasn't <really> ready for the ouch-factor of this whip (which, although stingy on the end, is more like a cane from there on), but I wish : - a) There were no prying ears. b) I was a bit more securely bound and helpless. Does anyone else have this problem? Respectfully, Danielle. | |||
| 30 May 10, 5:42 AM Peccavi 4 yrs |
You've already worked out that you are inhibited by the idea that the neighbours may hear. This will interfere with your 'head space'. You have also worked out that being restrained more ridgidly would again help with your head space and help your body to relax. These are the things you need to discuss with your g/f. There is also the possibility that the dressage whip is not the right implement for you. Good scenes need communication. | |||
| 30 May 10, 6:28 AM Carl_Marks UK(M), 5 yrs |
Get your arse to a club and let your girlfriend go hell for leather. No complaining neighbours, good bondage furniture and an enjoyable experience for you both. I bet you would both become regulars.
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| 30 May 10, 6:37 AM hollythedolly UK(NN), 2 yrs  |
but carl some of us are screamers in clubs and have been told we have ruined other peoples play Another one bites the dust. | |||
| 30 May 10, 6:53 AM Carl_Marks UK(M), 5 yrs |
Kindly suggest church next time it happens. | |||
| 30 May 10, 11:27 AM Twistee UK(BA), 3 yrs  |
Good point, but some of us are yelpers and screamers no matter how deep the headspace. Sometimes headspace causes me to take the brakes off completely, and I can make one hell of a racket. Sometimes being told not to make noise until I absolutely have to can really help build the intensity. I do reach a point with pain play where I cannot hold it in any longer, but by that point it's almost like an orgasmic release. It actually helps to have something to concentrate on as the intensity builds, and the release is all the more satisfying as a result.
That said, in a public play situation, I do keep enough awareness to hold it back, at least by keeping my mouth shut. It doesn't muffle the noise much, but I am at least trying to show some consideration for other people in the dungeon. And, I've been told, contained muffled screams are very enjoyable from the Top's perspective
What can I suggest? Gags? Pushing your face into a pillow? Beyond that, unless your headspace allows you to get into a more relaxed, quieter frame of mind, sometimes you just have to live with it. Some of us are just squirmers and a screamers and the only solution is to find ways of not alerting the neighbours to your nefarious activities ~Twistee~ Everything is better with a twist | |||
| 30 May 10, 11:31 AM Lady_Susan UK, 5 yrs |
It's a personal issue obviously, but I love to hear the screaming, begging and pleading, and it would only enhance my enjoyment of an evening in a club - or pretty much anywhere!  When I want your opinion, I'll thrash it out of you |
