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| xCallyx |
on Tue 25 May 10, 9:14 PM to xCallyx's blog.
On the local radio station this morning they did a report which immediately transported me back to 1980.
Apparently its been 30 years since our local steelworks closed throwing 20,000 people out of work overnight. My dad would have been one of those 20,000 but luckily the unions did a deal and managed to get early retirement for some of the workers.
Dad had worked in those steelworks for over 30 years. He had his gold watch to prove his years of service and that watch now sits in my jewellery box with pride, to me that watch epitomised my dad. Dad who dragged himself to work too soon after having a heart attack. And Dad who only had 5 very short years to live after retiring.
He died 25 years ago, and yes i still miss him every single day. i would give almost anything just to have the chance to hug him once more and to tell him that i loved him. Something that i nearly did on the night he died, but because i felt too tired to call into the hospital on the way home to say goodnight, i never got a chance to say to him.
And now here i am 25 years later, with a wonderful marvelous husband who i love with all of my heart, and who i wish could have met Dad just once. That meeting would have shown my love just how funny my beautiful Dad was.
So why is it i wonder that some people who still have their Dads around choose to alienate themselves from them. Choose to disown their fathers very existence.
Yes i am sad when i think of my Dad not being here anymore, but i am happy that we shared so many wonderful moments. i just wish that i could give the same sort of wonderful moments to my beloved and make his sons realise just how stupid they are in their actions.
Sadly i cannot work miracles, but i know that i can do my very very best to try to make my fantastic husband as happy as i possibly can.
So to anyone who feels able to, remember to make the most of your Dads this Fathers day and every other day of the week. They wont be around forever and the day of parting will always come too soon.
be well and be happy
cally 
| 25 May 10, 10:23 PM Amber_Light 3 yrs |
Beautiful post Cally, one that your dad would be very proud of.
My dad was stark staring bonkers and I know exactly who I take after lol! We lost a lot of 'him' when we were little after mum died but we got him back for a bit My husband's children disowned him for some time when we got together. I am a fair bit younger than him and worked with a couple of his daughters. Him and their mother had separated long before but that didn't matter to them. Bit by bit they came round though. One of their husbands lost his dad suddenly and it made them really think. I'm glad it did. Maybe one day Cally, maybe one day.... it is never too late for anyone. At least you and both your friends know what a great bloke you have there. Hugs to you both. Lovely to see you here again, hope you are feeling much better. D x Edited 25 May 10, 10:44 PM by Amber_Light | |
| 25 May 10, 11:44 PM LadyLibidienne UK(CB), 8 yrs |
Never having known my Dad i feel like there is a part of me i know nothing about.
My girls having lost their dad my wonderful husband Don nearly 3 years will agree with you. Parents are very important and sometimes we don't realise how much until they are gone. I am so glad you have so many happy memories of your Dad just as my girls do and because of those memories he will always be you. One of my favourite quotes comes from Star Trek Next Generation on the death of Tasha Yar. She left a hologram message that said; " Death is that state in which one exists only in the memory of others. Which is why it is not an end. No goodbyes. Just good memories." I used that at the end of the Eulogy for my beloved Mum and it is so true. Bless you darling and good to see you posting again. We have missed your posts. xxxx
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| 26 May 10, 5:55 AM xCallyx UK, 5 yrs |
Thank you Amber its amazing how losing someone can really make you appreciate those that are still with us. and thank you for the lovely welcome its good to be back The bottom half of GC INC | |
| 26 May 10, 6:00 AM xCallyx UK, 5 yrs |
i remember watching that episode, and i agree it is so true. i have always believed that as long as there are people still alive who remember those that have died, they never really die. Memories are a wonderful storehouse that we can dip into whenever we need to. thank you Ann its good to be back The bottom half of GC INC | |
| 26 May 10, 9:39 AM Jezzebelle UK, 10 yrs |
The thing is cally, not everyone had / has a wonderful dad. My closest friend rang me a few months ago and told me her dad had died and she didn't feel a thing for him, at least she had managed to let go of the hatred. Her dad was a sick and twisted man who put his little girl through hell. So double your blessings that yours was a good one! http://www.flickr.com/photos/jezzebelle/ | |
| 26 May 10, 9:16 PM xCallyx UK, 5 yrs |
what you say is very true Jezzebelle, and i have to admit that i was extremely lucky with my Dad, though perhaps a bit less so with my Mum. The bottom half of GC INC |
