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Now's your chance to build the MaleDom counter-culture, promote it and aim to have it celebrated...

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And sadly MaleDom has I think been tared with the same brush.

I also think it is simply to do with men not being as social as women with regards to having the same type of gatherings, if we get together it is for a pint. Rather than a meal and drinks with serving wenches, like FemDoms have their tea parties and maids.

With regards to being welcomed into the fold and shown the ropes as it were, when starting out. Yes there is a definite bias and more welcoming attitude towards novice Dommes. Partly due to it seemingly ok for a female dominant to ask lots of questions, were as a male dominate is to a degree expected to know. I'm not saying it is always the case. Another side of things is that a male sub is only too happy to just have a Mistress/ Domme even is she has just started, but a female sub is far less likely to go for a novice Dom, so they end up in a catch 22 situation- lack of experience but no way to get it.

Coming full circle MaleDom is on the up, and with luck we can start to get dedicated events up and running, already there has been a post about a 'high tea' style gathering.

With time and effort old attitudes can be changed.

"I'm not jealous- just bitter and twisted "
"Stercus, stercus, stercus moriturus sum!"

This is the feeling I have had from most people I know who are not "scene" but admit to a little roleplay and light BDSM.

I agree that this group is a good idea and the whole maledom scene could do with a bit more prominence. Perhaps some more Pedestal style events with a maledom focus would be useful?

That attitude of those who know nothing on the scene range from the simply uninformed fantasising through to the bigoted making false assumptions, equivilant to saying that all gays are paedophiles. We who are better informed know the above comment are far from the truth, and ignore the fact that any woman submitting to a Dom is giving her consent.

Going back to the original title of the thread, I first believe that good Doms quietly get on with what they are doing, they are not as vocal about it as the ladies are. On pretty much all subjects on here the female side seem to dominate the conversations and so appear to be the more prominent!

From my personal aspect as a gay man, the Dom/Top/Master is definitely prominent - for obvious reasons - although it is generally acknowledged there are not enough good ones to fulfil the demand. I have as many subs approach me as I need just by sitting quietly, ready for them to stumble into my clutches!

As a very gentle suggestion? Perhaps a bit on your profile to clarify that *you* know the difference would be a help here? All you have is a minimalist shopping list of sexual wishes. To my mind at least that tend to characterise specifically the type of men who are after easy dirty sex and have not spent time looking into this more deeply. You need to set yourself apart from them.

...rushing in where angels fear to tread
...burning bridges before they're even built, but my don't the flames look pretty?

I personally would be less comfortable with this type of 'competitive' (read unfriendy or subtly-aggressive) Dom as to me it smacks of insecurity, not a trait I would admire in any man (or woman).

Does it come down to simply that there is less need for competition between dommes as male subs for fem-doms are more forward and more numerous than female subs for male Doms.

(Not being funny but it seems as though many fem-subs are more picky as well, which may have simply to do with biological basics?)

...rushing in where angels fear to tread
...burning bridges before they're even built, but my don't the flames look pretty?

And having just looked at that profile, I agree - it's the kind of profile I find totally off-putting because it suggests only self-gratification with no thought of the person behind the 3 holes...

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I'm not sure where the competitive streak stems from - some would argue it's the biological/instinctual alpha male aspect, or insecurity, or the ratio of male dominants to female submissives.

Whatever it is, I don't like it. More than once I've met a male top and found little but an arrogant, condescending, domlier-than-thou attitude. It brings nothing but discord amongst those on the scene.

To deny it implies that it's wrong.
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