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| Sun 23 May 10, 10:24 PM QuietlyComfortable 3 yrs |
I know that there was a topic recently about penis size, so I don't want to drag all of that up again but I'm wondering if the size can change much over time? I'm currently seeing someone, who I also dated a few years ago. I'm sure it can't be my imagination, but he's defintitely got bigger. In a painful way. It's become a bit of an issue. He has lost a little weight, but I would never have expected it to make this much difference. I'm not entirely sure how to bring it up either. It makes penetrative sex quite painful (this is not much of a problem, as I am very happy with my masochistic side) but it makes it impossible for me to climax and it changes the nature of our sex. I don't know quite how to explain to him that we can't do the things we used to do, or that the things we used to do now have a different effect on me. Nor do I have any alternative ideas. I'm so used to him throwing me around and doing what he likes with me, so I don't want to impose any rules and create a dynamic where I have to ok or veto whatever position he proposes. In addition to the lack of climax, I'm genuinely worried about doing internal damage to myself. Any thoughts/advice/experience? QC | |
| 23 May 10, 10:27 PM Lady_Susan UK, 5 yrs  |
Gosh. You mean his dick has actually got bigger? I bet a few guys would like the name of his chemist. Have you tried using some additional lubricant - that might help? When I want your opinion, I'll thrash it out of you | |
| 23 May 10, 10:31 PM Made_in_Italy UK, 2 yrs  |
his cock is not bigger (minus he had an enlargement)I think the problem is the reduction of natural lubrification in your vagina. use some lube AND dont forego foreplay. once he has turned you suitably on, size really should not matter... women do fisting without major problems thanks to some skill, technique and loads of lube. regarding the internal damage, you are right it could lead to infections which not only are dangerous but could make you sterile or making difficult to conceive. | |
| 23 May 10, 10:32 PM steved14 UK(TW), 5 yrs  |
always been big , and been told by a number , its not good at times | |
| 23 May 10, 10:35 PM Manteau UK(S), 2 yrs |
Ask him not to push in so deep, you'll probably find some positions make things more painful than others. I can see how you feel it could change things, maybe it would change things for the better? If he's keen for you to gain satisfaction from your relationship, he'd presumably find it counter productive if you're not finding it as fulfilling as it could be, through concern you might not want to bring the topic up. If he cares for you, then I'm sure he won't take it badly! Suffering becomes beautiful when anyone bears great Calamities with cheerfulness, not through insensibility but through greatness of mind.
Aristotle | |
| 23 May 10, 10:50 PM GoddessSharon 4 yrs |
Speak to your doctor....They have lots of advice | |
| 23 May 10, 11:08 PM Manteau UK(S), 2 yrs |
Yes, that will be your cervix, saying 'ouch, please don't do that again'. Suffering becomes beautiful when anyone bears great Calamities with cheerfulness, not through insensibility but through greatness of mind.
Aristotle | |
| 23 May 10, 11:09 PM Rhubarb_Crumble 2 yrs |
I have to know: what size is he!!!! Have never come across one that is 'too big' so am very curious as to what I should compare with. | |
| 23 May 10, 11:13 PM Made_in_Italy UK, 2 yrs |
please go and see your gp immediatly, pain in the lower abdomen (especially after or during sex) can be cause dby other things then the size of the cock. if i were you i would have myself checked.. | |
| 23 May 10, 11:13 PM Isosceles UK(NG), 3 yrs |
It is unlikely that he is bigger than a baby - so you should be able to stretch easily Is he more aggressive or self confident than your last time with him? | |
| 24 May 10, 6:10 AM Purvection UK(M), 8 yrs     |
I agree. Abdominal pain during sex is not normal. I honestly doubt your partner's size has changed but it's possible your cervix has shifted so he may be hitting it when he thrusts. And if it's shifted there'll be a reason for that so you do need to see your doctor. Also, you're probably now getting into a cycle of being less wet for him and tensing up, because you fear it'll hurt again. That's another reason to go see your GP because once that psychological link is established, with the physical result, it can be difficult to unlearn it. Aut disce aut discede. Manet sors tertia caedi |
