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| 15 May 10, 4:22 PM nepthys UK, 4 yrs   |
*nods sagely*
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| 15 May 10, 4:35 PM velvetmouth UK(LA), 2 yrs |
Its not that I'm upset just bemused I suppose. Are Doms meant to disappear when things are getting real? | ||
| 15 May 10, 4:39 PM velvetmouth UK(LA), 2 yrs |
An example might be:
[/quote] Thanks for this but I asked all these questions except the landline one as I don't use mine much at all. He answered them, in my opinion truthfully. We had long conversations about most of the topics. | ||
| 15 May 10, 4:43 PM Intelligencia UK(GU), 5 yrs |
I've had similar experiences, some felt 'guilty', some were married, some had very busy lives and the meeting was a way to let off steam or indulge in a fanstasy that they had no intention of making reality. The only want to find out is to ask. The only way to resolve how you are feeling is to learn from the experience and move on, however you feel about each other, it clearly isn't 'happening' Good luck and, as my old granny used to say 'there's nowt so queer as folk' Oh, THAT old paradox! | ||
| 15 May 10, 4:49 PM velvetmouth UK(LA), 2 yrs |
Good luck and, as my old granny used to say 'there's nowt so queer as folk'
[/quote] Thank you, posting things on here has helped. You are a lot of lovely people. I have sent a message asking why but don't expect an answer. Oh well onwards and upwards. LOL. | ||
| 15 May 10, 4:54 PM Novices_R_Us UK, 2 yrs |
The point being that you can't really tell if the answers from a person are true or false without getting evidence by meeting that person; but that over time asking the same questions each time to different people will allow you to 'feel' if the nature of the responses resonate postively or negatively based on your experiences. It's the constancy of the set of questions and variance of answers matched to your experience of meeting the ones you chose to meet that builds you the benefits from asking the same set of questions. If you ask me if like icecream and I say 'yes' you've no way from that of knowing if I do or don't. Meet me and ask me to eat some icecream and you'll get evidence for my honesty rather than the truth about my liking of icecream. You probably don't care whether I like icecream or not. You probably do care whether I'm honest or not. Novices_R_Us :: knot toys, butt novices | ||
| 15 May 10, 5:12 PM Miss_Hardy UK(E), 5 yrs  |
The way you have to look at it is, not as time wasted but as a lesson learned. I've been here nearly 4 years and have had some wonderful experiences but also a lot of time wasters. If I'd given up I wouldn't have met the man I am with now.
"Have people always been this angry? I've got this really funny idea that before the internet people would just write FUCK YOU! and attach it to pigeons" - Russell Howard | ||
| 15 May 10, 5:15 PM candle_in_the_wind UK(RM), 5 yrs |
Ditto.
The Gene Pool could use a little Chlorine | ||
| 15 May 10, 7:08 PM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs |
I think the answer is to meet people fairly quickly so time isn't wasted. He might haev just found someone else which is perfectly all right. You don't make a vow of monogamy to someone as soon as you start emailing them. | ||
| 15 May 10, 7:28 PM SinPar US, 12 yrs |
Some people are quite shy or the other party may be waiting for some signal from you that you're not aware of. You might just ask the question "We've met twice and nothing I thought would happen has happened. What's up? Are you waiting on me to do something I don't know I'm supposed to be doing?" At least you have a chance of getting an answer. Generally, its been my experience that time spent with people- even if they are glaring examples of what not to do- is never entirely wasted if you're open to the lesson the universe is sending you. SinPar
-- The weak are the most treacherous of us all. They come to the strong and drain them. They are bottomless. They are insatiable. They are always parched and always bitter. They are everyone's concern, and like vampires they suck our life's blood. (Bette Davis) |
