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Posted by The_Problem_Page on Mon 10 May 10, 5:46 PM to the The_Problem_Page group.
Anon OP
I have been single now for a couple of months. Not long but i really need to fuck. I masturbate and watch porn and I have had a great time playing with friends but i want more. I want play and sex. The problem is that i have a romantic notion that i will find a dom who will satisfy me (hopefully sooner rather than later) and i don't want to have slept with half the scene before we get together especially seeing as a few people already seem to think they have a claim on me from casual play. What to do. What to do. Any suggestions welcome.
| 10 May 10, 6:23 PM Elysium UK(EH), 5 yrs   |
Find a kinky fuck buddy. Make the terms of the relationship clear. No need to fuck your way through the scene and you can get your needs met. Everyone should have one. Let's televise and broadcast the raping of kings. | ||
| 10 May 10, 6:30 PM Mistress_Alaska UK(PO), 3 yrs |
There is no reason why you should not be able to have sex as long as its 'safe' - you are single after all! You could be waiting years to find the perfect partner and lets be honest, most peoplehave a sexual history and any potential partner would to. I suggest you go with the flow, experiment and have fun. | ||
| 10 May 10, 9:54 PM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs  |
I agree with the others... you can have fun, there's no harm in having a life before you meet the "right one". If you want to preserve your reputation just make sure you do it safely, with people (or just someone) you trust. Q. What are the components of a good dynamic? A. The mutual desire to share ourselves with each other. (If you don't want to share yourself with me, don't offer yourself to me.) | ||
| 10 May 10, 10:05 PM Liefsome UK(S), 3 yrs   |
I don't think 'find someone you trust to fuck and use them just for fucking while you find a partner' is especially good advice for everyone though. I know someone who just can't bring herself to do that, she wants and needs the relationship alongside the sex. She can't just find someone to just fuck because she needs the relationship to be able to want to fuck someone. She needs a lot of sex too by her own admission, and not having a partner is not helping her. The advice 'find a fuck buddy' would actually be something that would be more harmful to her as she wouldn't actually get from that sex what she needs. She's said on occasion she wouldn't do just that because it would actually fuck her up more. So, as an alternative, there is 'find a way to survive without' or 'put yourself in as many situations where you might meet new people' neither are easy, but may be more personally viable or better for you than 'find a kinky fuck-buddy'. | ||
| 10 May 10, 10:11 PM relaxed1 UK(BR), 6 yrs |
The best way to avoid people believing they have a claim to you is to avoid casual play in 'public' (clubs etc). In a one on one situation, it is much easier to establish ground rules, and to set your own parameters as to what, if anything, it means to you. That doesn't prevent it getting misconstrued, but at least you avoid dozens of others assuming that you're a couple (whatever that might mean). There is no reason why anyone shouldn't be able to have a fuck on their own terms whilst single. "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars." - Oscar Wilde | ||
| 10 May 10, 10:15 PM Thistle US, 4 yrs |
Having a large number of partners doesn't mean you're promiscuous, it means you're sexually aware, not willing to settle for less than what you want and not willing to waste yourself on celibacy. love the brave but avoid cowards, knowing the gratitude of cowards is small ~Praxilla of Sicyon | ||
| 10 May 10, 10:37 PM Dirk_Gently1 UK, 2 yrs |
I have been there. I dont believe its possible to find a 'quick fix'. I roamed and plucked what I might from those I met and played with.It was still exceptionally good fun on a mental as well as a physical level where i was successful, but there are bad experiences too. It doesnt take too long to find out what is good and rewarding fun and separate it from the disappointments( they may be many but its one of those things). Enjoy the good and rewarding fun, no matter if it is several playpartners, its exceptionally hard to find a unique one, but if and when you do you can then focus on your good fortune. I do hate sounding like mystic meg....but you really have to look scrupulously at what you might want and go for it. Waiting doesnt help. I do also think these things are better discussed in person( bounce them off someone you trust or think might help), so you can ask all the questions in and around your biggest concern, theres so many asociated with it though. Xx | ||
| 11 May 10, 1:37 PM anncat UK(ST), 7 yrs |
I am replying, as I could so easily have written your query. So although I do not have much to add to the comments above, I feel waiting for that special Domly type probably isn't the best thing, and finding a fuckable person is. I shall now take that advice myself and stop waiting around for that special Domly person! | ||
| 11 May 10, 8:53 PM polyanna UK(CV), 4 yrs |
No, not just you. "That didn't hurt. That didn't hurt. That didn't hurt. That hurt! (Do it again)" | ||
| 11 May 10, 10:37 PM relaxed1 UK(BR), 6 yrs |
Had the OP not used it as a title (assuming that he/she assigned the title), I would agree. However, perhaps it goes to the heart of the concern; nobody wants to be branded as promiscuous when all they are doing is, perfectly reasonably and responsibly, satisfying their own human needs "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars." - Oscar Wilde |
