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| 12 May 10, 4:54 PM Powerpants UK(LS), 3 yrs |
Quite possibly yes! Why such defensive reactions?
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| 12 May 10, 5:04 PM Lady_Anna_Bradford UK(BD), 5 yrs    |
So you make a bizarre statement that the use of questionnaires equates to a lack of confidence, that it means that clients can dictate the session, and because we don't agree with you, we're being (surprisingly) defensive?
"If no sexual offence is being committed it seems very odd indeed that there should be an offence for having an image of something which was not an offence," Lord Wallace of Tankerness | |||
| 12 May 10, 5:23 PM Powerpants UK(LS), 3 yrs |
Yes that's right. Questionnaire = uncertainty about own abilities = something to fall back on = domme by numbers = defensive behaviour. Correct. | |||
| 12 May 10, 5:50 PM Ms_Tytania_London 3 yrs |
You aren't going to pick a fight with any of us. I'd suggest that you search for some nice porn on the internetz and find an alternative way to get your rocks off today. Cheers. | |||
| 12 May 10, 5:56 PM Lady_Anna_Bradford UK(BD), 5 yrs |
Would that be uncertainty in their mind reading abilities? You strike me as the sort of person who thiks that only their version of FemDom exists. BDSM is a very broad church. Nobody has exactly the same interests and approaches. Dommes can't mind read. No Domme is the same. No client is the same. If I did to my regulars what your Domme did to you (the double booking and getting her client to top you) I wouldn't have any regulars any more. A PD who doesn't do it the way YOU want it done is not wrong. She is different. If you have found your perfect Mistress then good for you, but don't tell the rest of us that we are wrong.
"If no sexual offence is being committed it seems very odd indeed that there should be an offence for having an image of something which was not an offence," Lord Wallace of Tankerness | |||
| 12 May 10, 6:15 PM Powerpants UK(LS), 3 yrs |
Hi Anna - I wasn't saying that only my interpretation is right - all I was tryingto do was share with others how I felt. I thought that was the purpose of these forums? I'm sorry if I have broken some unwritten rule. I thought it was acceptable to raise these topics on here. | |||
| 12 May 10, 6:27 PM Lady_Anna_Bradford UK(BD), 5 yrs |
It is acceptable, but if you're going to claim that dommes who use questionnaires are lacking in confidence, controlled by the client and only domme by numbers you have to expect some criticism and challenging comments by other members, particularly by PDs, and particularly when they include a PD who uses questionnaires (me). Perhaps you should consider how you phrase your comments? Nobody can dispute your experiences, but we can dispute your claims. "If no sexual offence is being committed it seems very odd indeed that there should be an offence for having an image of something which was not an offence," Lord Wallace of Tankerness | |||
| 12 May 10, 6:38 PM Powerpants UK(LS), 3 yrs |
Fair enough. Thanks for your input on this. It has been enlightening. I find this secret world to be a strange place and i can only draw my conclusions from what I've experienced. | |||
| 12 May 10, 6:43 PM Mistress_Susannah UK(SE), 7 yrs £  |
It's not really a secret world. But yes, of course you can only go on your own experience.... as do I. You may notice that I'm often over zealous about quantifying my posts with "in my experience" or "in my opinion" - there is a reason for this that is borne out of 5 years on here!
Acknowledging that others have different experiences from you and avoiding generalisations about Mistresses who use certain techniques will mean that we'll all get along a little better.
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| 12 May 10, 7:50 PM KnightToDreams UK(CW), 3 yrs |
any recomendations? i can't think of anything to say here |
