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on Thu 29 Apr 10, 9:45 AM to x_Thunder_x's blog.
After talking to my ex about people I know on Facebook I joined. Only to discover in fact that I had joined 2 1/2 years ago (probably out of curiosity) and never went back
Though I have doubts about some aspects of it (and I prefer some of the Fetlife features to those on Facebook)I've now added some relatives and vanilla friends to my profile
Now I am in a quandry. None of my family/friends know of my "other life" . Do I add friends from my BDSM world or not.
Curious to know how other people have handled this.
| 29 Apr 10, 9:58 AM hailstone UK(HD), 9 yrs |
I have added both family and people from the lifestyle.
And although my family are aware i dont live a conventional lifestyle, my kinky friends seem to have enough respect to keep facebook vanilla.
my fantasies are your reality.... my reality is your edge | |
| 29 Apr 10, 10:05 AM xXx_scarlet_xXx UK, 4 yrs |
I have Facebook. I took time to block the names of people I didn't want to find me or know about my life before it went live though.
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| 29 Apr 10, 10:14 AM ThedaVamp UK, 6 yrs |
The joy of Facebook is you can hide elements that may clash with others, or even set up two different profiles for different sides of you and carefully ensure they don't overlap.
Luckily I haven't had to do such filtering, in fact, one of my cousins in another country saw I'd joined a domme group and commented 'I wish I were there so I could!'
In a negative way, one of the nasty little bigot members of a fascist racist group tried to 'Out' me by connecting my Theda persona to my real life one - as I had nothing to hide - it kind of backfired on him Perverted Pederast Puppetmistress Pimp Pandering to the Patriarchy... apparently | |
| 29 Apr 10, 10:16 AM Malbon UK(LS), 8 yrs |
I just use Facebook for keeping in touch with family and vanilla people, with a couple of well trusted exceptions. 'The perfect life will be the one which closes in the assurance that the last of his final vocabularies, at least, really was wholly his.' | |
| 29 Apr 10, 10:29 AM Wiley_Kit UK(PE), 7 yrs |
I have BDSM friends on there as well as family and work colleagues and uni and college friends. My family (apart from my sister) don't know about that side of my life, but they do however think im abit of a weirdo anyway, so think nothing of the stuff my friends say on my page, but at the same time, I will only add people from the BDSM scene that I can trust not to be a total arsewipe. ETA: My brother is a total ladies man, he keeps on seeing loads of hot women on my friends list and asks me who they are and why doesn't he know them, luckily he doesn't go round adding them! Plus he's married and vanilla anyway, his wife would kick his arse. I can't believe I've no control Edited 29 Apr 10, 10:31 AM by Wiley_Kit | |
| 29 Apr 10, 10:48 AM Crystal_Eyes UK, 5 yrs   |
I have both. I find the friends who also happen to be kinky bastards tend not to spray their sexuality all over their profiles in the same way that the non-kink friends I have tend not to fill their status updates with 'Just got a blowjob lol' and the like. Kink doesn't equal a lack of self-censorship.  ------------------------------------------ | |
| 29 Apr 10, 11:01 AM steved14 UK(TW), 5 yrs |
i joined facebook (well my now flatmate set mine up) in feb 2006 so had it a long time but nothing about this of me is on there | |
| 29 Apr 10, 11:04 AM x_Thunder_x UK(E), 9 yrs    |
My ex DID warn me (and I discovered what she meant) I have a lesbian cousin who appears to "live" on Facebook and spreading her sexuality and kinks all over my (and presumably her other friends ) newsfeeds. After about 20 posts from her in a couple of hours after she joined my friends I decided to hide her posts (not because of her sexuality which we all know about) but the "me me me" nature of them. So I suppose I'll have to restrict my kink friends to those who don't do the same. ^Thunder^ | |
| 29 Apr 10, 11:47 AM epona74 UK(SL), 7 yrs |
I have an essentially nilla Facebook with a few from the lifestyle carefully chosen for being sensible. Friends who would be on there regardless of kink! Two roads diverged in a wood and I, I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference. (R. Frost) | |
| 29 Apr 10, 1:05 PM MistressBloke 5 yrs |
Facebook is where I have my family but I don't like the site and hardly ever use it. I don't really know many people in the BDSM world that well so I don't really need to add them to a site I barely use. I comparmentalise my life online as well as my life of it. Keep a lot of different activities and people quite separate. there are some mates I wouldn't introduce to others because I doubt they'd have much in common. I don't know anything about fetlife but facebook generates an awful lot of spam and sometimes I get messages that a friend of a friend commented on a friend's wall or stuff like that so I wouldn't risk putting anyone into BDSM on there in case someone commented on their stuff and my nephew or neice ended up seeing it somehow. I don't understand facebook because I don't like it enough to want to. "I am not an atomic playboy" - Vice Admiral W.H.R. Blandy Commander of the Bikini Test Edited 29 Apr 10, 1:10 PM by MistressBloke |
