Reluctant Dom(me) (21)

When we enter a D/s relationship we do so with certain expectations - on both sides. If the framework of their relationship included a certain amount of S&M, then it's understandable that the OP would be disappointed that this no longer existed. Posting the question on a public forum asking how to "goad" her into it, clearly isn't the way to go though. I'd suggested chatting very clearly with your Domme about your needs and expectations from the relationship, and then hope that she can provide you with what it is you need. Ultimately though, it's D/s - ergo it's her call.

I've been involved in a relationship like this, and got some really interesting feedback from others on the boards when I posted on it (will try and find the link). Basically the more he loved me, the less he could hurt me and enjoy it. It left us both feeling frustrated, and we never really did get to the bottom of it, but it's something quite a few people seem to experience.

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Oh my goodness, what are you? Are you some sort of alien entity with special powers that can stretch from room to room?

I am rather surprised myself, that whilst you were in this amazing spread-eagled position, your mistress didn't take the time to create a funny balloon type figure, using just your balls, since you are so elasticised.

Angel DeVille

Before you judge me, consider if at any time during the reading of this ... you've been aroused. If the answer is yes then you must judge both of us.
Social order at the expense of liberty is hardly a bargain.
It is always by way of pain one arrives at pleasure. (all Marquis de Sade)

Do what the voices tell you, and then do it again twice as hard and twice as fast and take an axe....scare them into silence!

Often female, there seems or seemed to come a point in a BDSM relationship, normally 6 months in, when the fem sub would start to realise play was getting milder, and on asking, the Dom said, in one of various ways, well I love you to much to hurt you.

I've lost count of the conversations I've had about this, and there isw a serious problem, as the reason the fem sub is with the dom has changed, they are now not getting what they need,and may never get it with that person.

I think however, you have made a major mistake in doing your post in the way you have.

I believe youshould in the first instance always and I mean ALWAYS talk toyour dom first, and discuss things fully.

Your problem now is that BDSM is very much about communication, and you are not communicating with your Dom, you are just putting posts out in public slagging off her and her method of playing.

And to be honest, if it lasted one hour, I think you are doing bloody well

If you are very very lucky, you will be able to continue with this dom, But you may just have blown it

Agreed

2 yr relationship 3 months on IC

And the answers unhelpful ??? what the hell did the poster want as an answer LOL

Jesus Christ .... some people ....

Sorry to piss on your parade with negative responses but your OP was very negative to the point of being insulting to your lady/domme and in a public forum.

Other people have mentioned similar things on threads and have not been roasted, this was probably due to the way they phrased it.

I understand you are probably frustrated with the way things are but talking to your domme would be a good step in the right direction not saying unkind things about her.

I do wish you both luck in sorting this out

"Eats shoots and leaves" or maybe "Eats, shoots and leaves"
Your or you're so do you know the difference?
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Oh dear... not only has the OP been deleted (and I considered quoting it in my reply, I wish I had) but the OP has deleted his profile.

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