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| Fri 23 Apr 10, 2:15 AM roadtramp69 UK(M), 2 yrs   |
I always fantasize about recieving extreme pain, but in reality when it comes down to it my pain threshold is not high enough to actually take it. Can you train your body to take more by pushing limits? Forgive the silly question, i am new to all this and still leaerning, and if you dont ask you dont learn much lol | ||
| 23 Apr 10, 2:17 AM Tudor_Rose UK(CF), 2 yrs |
Yes , you can train your body to accept more pain.
Any good Dominant will test your pain levels and respect your limits.
However , you should as a sub be prepared to go that little bit more.. Fools rush in, where angels fear to tread. | ||
| 23 Apr 10, 2:23 AM roadtramp69 UK(M), 2 yrs |
Thank you, i will have a lot of fun discovering all these things hopfully | ||
| 23 Apr 10, 2:30 AM SinPar US, 12 yrs |
Plus there is always the "Take one more, just for me" factor that the right dominant can get out of you sometimes. SinPar
-- The weak are the most treacherous of us all. They come to the strong and drain them. They are bottomless. They are insatiable. They are always parched and always bitter. They are everyone's concern, and like vampires they suck our life's blood. (Bette Davis) | ||
| 23 Apr 10, 2:53 AM Demmie PT, 12 yrs |
Everybody has different pain tolerances - Sinpar is quite right to suggest you do not judge yourself to harshly. You can work with how you deal with pain - not only does the type of pain affect your ability to take pain - there are other factors as well that might help you expand your threshold. Your position at the time - if you are lying flat your muscles will be relaxed and you will proably find that you can take pain in that position more easily than you could if you were standing or bent over - where your muscles are taut. If you and your dominant can explore with the use of music as well it can help - she can beat in time to the music and you can breathe in time to the music .....it will help you find focus to help you process the pain. This might sound a bit planned - and not very spontaneous - but if you can both work together towards expanding your threshold it will work a lot better. Memo me if you need more info. "Throughout history, it has been the inaction of those who could have acted; the indifference of those who should have known better; the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most; that has made it possible for evil to triumph." Haile Selassie, 1892-1975 | ||
| 23 Apr 10, 6:34 AM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs  |
Not all dominants are sadists or enjoy inflicting pain... I hope you're not saying that those sort of dominants aren't good ones.
Q. What are the components of a good dynamic? A. The mutual desire to share ourselves with each other. (If you don't want to share yourself with me, don't offer yourself to me.) | ||
| 23 Apr 10, 8:19 AM Persia_Porsche UK(EH), 3 yrs |
And I hope you're not saying that those dominants who don't enjoy inflicting pain wouldn't nevertheless attempt to ascertain what exactly *pain* means to their potential sub.
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| 23 Apr 10, 8:33 AM blushcheeks UK(CF), 2 yrs |
...its a funny thing my pain threshold is quite high ...except when maybe when it comes to the cane..its such a bonechilling pain for me...but as you say fantasy gets hold of you...i'v recently seen what i'd call a fairly cruel straight off 13 stroke cold caning, no real skin damage nothing like that...but the sound of the cane combined with the quivering bottom,,,,addictive stuff,,,and it puts ...i wish...thoughts into my mind | ||
| 23 Apr 10, 8:42 AM stormb4calm 2 yrs |
As everyone has said, pain can be subjective. I can go to the dentist and have whatever needs to be done without any painkillers, yet the thought of the crop brings me out in a cold sweat! (I think its more to do with having a bit of a needle phobia at the dentist) Ive found in the past that I have been able to build up my tolerance to some pain, but Im still a bit of a wuss where thats concerned.
Just take it slowly, and above all, be honest with whoever you are playing with. They will not be telepathic, and if you dont tell them you have a low pain threshold, they wont know All the best with your journey stormy x | ||
| 23 Apr 10, 9:18 AM Lj_switch UK, 3 yrs  |
 there seems to be a bit of a misguided view, not uncommon, that the sub simply takes what the Dom(me) gives. This is true up to a point but the experience and the relationship will be unsatisfactory for both parties unless they can agree what is and is not ok. I would venture that it is only after a great deal of experience in the relationship that the Dom(me) need have no feedback from the sub as to what is ok or not. So in the earlier stages, feedback is essential. So establishing the inital pain threshold happens by gently increasing severity and type of pain. From my own experience, both as Dom or sub, pain thresholds vary from day to day, and pain type to pain type. What works well today may be "red" the next. As to getting used to pain, yes, you do, and are quite likely to crave just that bit more next time! A good Dom(me) will vary the type of treatment as well, if only to reduce acclimatisation so they don't have to work too hard to achieve the desired result *grin*. be a switch, double your fun | ||
| 23 Apr 10, 9:33 AM Manteau UK(S), 2 yrs |
I'm sorry to be a pedant on this...but don't confuse pain threshold with pain tolerance. The pain threshold of humans is pretty even across the board, in other words our nerves jangle at pretty much the same place in reaction to 'pain'. However, we all have differenet pain tolerances from each other, in different circumstances (dentist drill/trapped finger/spanking), how much body fat we have, existing nerve damage, etc We could get onto the gate theory,but that's a different topic! Suffering becomes beautiful when anyone bears great Calamities with cheerfulness, not through insensibility but through greatness of mind.
Aristotle |
