Posted by sparkysbabe
on Mon 12 Apr 10, 10:52 AM to sparkysbabe's blog.
.....wait until you give it up as a bad job.
Imagine this “scenario”, you've chatted to a Master/Dom on here or one of the other sites available, via email, messenger, progressing quickly to phone calls and text messages. The next thing was to meet, you did this, even had a little play. You exchange maybe one or two emails immediately after, then it all begins to fade out, the text messages you send are often not replied too, the emails either read and ignored, or ignored all together, the phone calls are none existent.
On the odd occasion you do get a reply they say they are still interested. Even arranged a day sometime in the near future for another get together!
So how long do you wait until you call it a day?
I've been lucky in the past that previous Master/Dom's have kept in touch – sometimes too much! lol, but now I find myself in a position that is pretty new to me.
I'm aware that people's lives go on outside of the lifestyle, I'm not a numpty, but how long does it take to reply to a text message – honestly?! 
I'd be interested to hear from subs/Doms/Masters and slaves alike, to see what they think is a reasonable time to allow a new relationship to blossom, or when it should be called a day!
Toodlepip!
| 12 Apr 10, 10:58 AM Lascif 3 yrs |
I don't have a set time I wait, but if my attentions aren't reciprocated then they're not given. Trust your instinct and follow it.
I can't hear you when you shout. | ||
| 12 Apr 10, 11:17 AM Stillyet UK(DG), 2 yrs  |
Firstly, you're not the only sub this happens to. A lot of soi-disant 'Doms' seem to think it is domly to ignore subs except when they want a shag. It doesn't seem to me particularly mature, but then a lot of 'domly' behaviour isn't. If you tolerate that sort of behaviour, the 'Dom' will continue with it. Either this guy isn't interested in you, or he isn't worthy of your interest. Time to move on, I'm afraid. ;; Semper in faecibus sumus, sole profundum variat. | ||
| 12 Apr 10, 11:38 AM pixie15_CJ_s UK(EX), 7 yrs |
you both met ..you played ... then he stopped comunicating walked away ... for me playing on the first say...4 dates is a no no if you tell them this before you even meet then you get rid of the players before you invest your time in them you can change your mind later but your making it plain that your not easy .... try it hun ... chaos mayhem and desaster......my work here is done | ||
| 12 Apr 10, 11:59 AM sparkysbabe 8 yrs |
it did feel right at the time, but hindsight is a wonderful thing...
will definitely take your advice though, thanks
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| 12 Apr 10, 1:08 PM Visualize UK(CV), 5 yrs |
Dommes do this is well as Doms in my experience. Even switches do it. Probably everyone does it on occasion. Lots of honest face to face or at least voice communication is the key, but if they won't or can't be arsed to maintain a conversation or turn up to agreed meetings then there is no relationship because relationships do not exist without communication. If they aren't communicating with you, then chances are you are just a "back pocket" rainy day sort of contact and there is nothing more demeaning than that. The past is history, tomorrow is a mystery, the present is a gift. | ||
| 12 Apr 10, 2:51 PM sparkysbabe 8 yrs |
I never thought of it like that before, this is why i love IC, peoples views make you realise stuff that perhaps you wouldn't have considered before. Nice one thanks.
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