Posted by NilSatisNisiOptimum
on Sun 28 Mar 10, 8:50 PM to NilSatisNisiOptimum's blog.
when you send a memo and its read and dont get an answer one way or the other.On the other hand you know when you are being given the run around,when you have a good long chat with someone,they say we shall chat again saying all the right things and then just blank you from there on in.Why do people do that?Its a question i cant answer but by hell does it infuriate me.Is anyone able to give me a straight answer to that question?
Edited Sun 28 Mar 10, 8:51 PM by NilSatisNisiOptimum
| 28 Mar 10, 9:03 PM NilSatisNisiOptimum UK, 6 yrs |
I would quite agree with you,far better to be honest and say what they feel rather than just blank you. Revenge is a wasted emotion | |
| 28 Mar 10, 9:34 PM River_Deep UK, 6 yrs  |
The other one that annoys me is when they say they are going to go off to do something but are still online. If they want to end the conversation then why don't they just say so! RD xx It is not what you say or do but the way you say or do it | |
| 28 Mar 10, 9:35 PM Masters_Delight UK(WD), 5 yrs |
You're not really running around after them though are you? All you've done is exchange a memo. Maybe if you had met up and arranged to meet again or met a few times and then the memos stopped coming, after them promising to chat with you later, that could be considered being given the run around, imo. But if you haven't met yet, and only exchanged one or two memos, i wouldn't consider that annoying, more just one of those things that people online do when they can't be bothered to tell someone that they don't want to chat anymore. It's no biggy really, i'm sure you're much better off for them not chatting with you if that is how they go about saying thanks but no thanks.x I'm so fucking fabulous, i piss glitter. | |
| 28 Mar 10, 9:44 PM NilSatisNisiOptimum UK, 6 yrs |
Yes Dens i have had that as well.Its just common decency and do they really think we are total idiots,and they forget that IC keeps updating how long they have been online. Revenge is a wasted emotion | |
| 28 Mar 10, 9:46 PM NilSatisNisiOptimum UK, 6 yrs |
Oh yes you ar right there.but whats wrong with good old basic manners Revenge is a wasted emotion | |
| 28 Mar 10, 9:52 PM filthfromfingers UK(RG), 4 yrs |
Get used to it. Happens a lot. In my time on IC I can think of just once where I have had "I don't think we are suitable" sign off. Normally it is just a non-reply to a memo. Granted none of those conversations had been going on for very long (a few days at most). If I had been communicating with someone for months, or even met, then I would feel differently. For some reason when on the internet, manners go out of the window. On the hand, I have seen lots of reports where people (often women) have attempted to be polite and end a conversation with another (usually a man) who doesn't accept that it is over and demands to know why etc etc. They have therefore found the best way to deal with it is to simply ignore the messages. On CollarMe, a common trick is to simply block the other party, which stops the communication. Accept it, and move on. People are not going to change their ways. S -- To err is human but to really fowl things up requires a computer - anon | |
| 29 Mar 10, 6:50 PM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs  |
Saying "We'll chat again" doesn't mean someone will want to chat with you the next time you log-in or every time you're online, it just means that they've said "We'll chat again"! It's worth bearing in mind that the person you were chatting with might also have others they chat with and may not be instantly available to chat with you, again. It could be that if someone says they "have to go" it may not mean they're going offline (if that's what someone thinks, without being told that - it's just an assumption on their part). It could mean that someone they need/want to chat with has just come online, too... and maybe they'd made an arrangement to chat with them again, during their previous communication. Not everyone can/will/wants to give their attention to several people, online or in memo, at the same time. If someone sends a memo which isn't immediately responded to (and they don't like to be kept waiting) perhaps they would be well advised to move on... find someone who wants to (can and will) give them the amount of attention they feel they deserve/require. Finally... if the person you chatted with doesn't want to chat with you again, they should be honest enough to say so - it, ultimately, saves a lot of frustration, not to mention, time (for both). "Truth is stranger than fiction." | |
| 29 Mar 10, 7:37 PM dollydaydream 3 yrs |
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