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| Tanos |
on Tue 23 Mar 10, 12:56 PM to the O_and_P group.
For those of us with relationships involving age differences, do you feel this enhances things or is a problem? For those of you who are single or nearly the same in age, would a significant age difference be a problem for you?
(Personally, I've been quite "paternal" in all of my O&P-D/s-M/s style relationships, even with submissives who were older than me!, and I suppose that is easier when you're that bit older.)
Regards,
Tanos
| 23 Mar 10, 1:52 PM flamesdesire UK(OX), 4 yrs |
My last Master was 8 years older than myself as was my ex husband. I feel I am more attracted to those older than me. I wont play with those that are young enough to be my children....mine are 20 and 24. I do have a lower age limit of about 30, I am 42 next month.
As for upper age limit, I guess that would depend on who they are. I did work with a guy once who was in his early 60's, I had to get him to prove his age to me as he looked amazing for a guy approaching retirement jxx | |
| 23 Mar 10, 4:56 PM Taintedinnocence UK(S), 6 yrs  |
I think it definitely helps. My Master is very intelligent, and that added to more life experience and the confidence that comes with age is all good. I think it helps me to look up to Him and helps me feel respectfully and (at times) intimidated by Him. As quite a confident person in life generally, I wouldn't want a Dominant who was less confident or younger than me.
The only problem is I can't bear to think of being without Him, and obviously the age difference makes me worry about this one day. But hopefully that day is a long long way away (and with any luck I'll go first | |
| 23 Mar 10, 6:35 PM ElectricLadyLand UK, 4 yrs |
My boy is almost 9 years younger than Me, and it's something I don't even think about. Maybe this is because he is an old head and in some ways more mature than I. I admit to being attracted to younger people (both male and female) However, I don't think I could go any lower than late 20's, I would be concerned that there is not enough mutual interests to hold My attention. This is both in everyday life and in a kink context. He looked into My eyes, and I almost died. Then I remembered what I was and half killed him. | |
| 23 Mar 10, 8:21 PM jules9 UK(CH), 2 yrs    |
I am most definitely in the camp of preferring older men, my ex was 9 years older than me and that was quite a nice age gap. I'd like to think anyone I am dating has the ability to be "the one", which does mean an upper age limit, as I do one day want children. I'm fascinated by the Daddy Dom Dynamic, and think a few extra years can add to this in terms of life skills and wisdom. I know it's "ageist", but the thought of being with someone younger actively "icks" me out in a bad way. I don't want someone I can run rings around mentally/emotionally, and ime that has meant looking for someone older. That said, wisdom doesn't always come with age... XxX | |
| 23 Mar 10, 8:47 PM Fitznicely UK(B), 2 yrs |
My in-laws are living proof of this There's seven years between my girl and I. We've felt it now and again, not too much, but enough to know we're children of different decades... I think it does help the dynamic, but...and I've spent the last hour redrafting this sentence to try and convey what I mean...I really can't tell how. I'm sure it does, but putting a finger on one thing or another and being able to say "yes, this enhances my dominance" is really....frigging....difficult! You know they say it's always the quiet ones you have to watch? That's me. | |
| 24 Mar 10, 4:59 PM curvy_bottom UK(M), 8 yrs  |
We have only a three year gap and it is about right, in that we have the same amount of life experience. it's lucky we also have similar interests and we have cultural memories in common. It feels right that he is older - whilst my brain is younger  dammit, life makes me so cross at times, my name should be curvy_top | |
| 26 Mar 10, 10:30 AM subweiser UK(EN), 8 yrs |
My first Mistress was 20 years older than me and I loved the age gap. I don't think I could serve a Mistress younger than me, I just love an Older Dominant Lady! | |
| 26 Mar 10, 10:50 AM GirlAfraid UK, 2 yrs |
He is exactly three weeks older than me which has never been the problem some might imagine it to be. I've never had an issue with looking up to him, as it were. Maybe that's because of his physical size comparative to mine makes me feel safe and comforted or just because he's got a steadier head on his shoulders. Either way he does his fair share of being paternal. I'd like to say that an age gap wouldn't be a problem but, having been in age-gap relationships, it normally is. Being so close together we're at the same point in our lives so our life timeline looks the same - same ideas on marriage, kids etc - which I think is where age-gap relationships can hit stumbling blocks. YMMV, obv. | |
| 26 Mar 10, 8:55 PM mia UK(M), 4 yrs       |
Age has never really been a factor in any of my relationships or friendships. My best friend is about 4 years older than me and i have close friends younger and older than me, as well as the same age. In terms of where i am now, the fact that there is such an age difference is something else that can make me feel small and naive at times, which is *nice* (read: nom). But there are plenty of times when it's not a bother either way too, as we have lots of shared interests, despite the gap. I've yet to see any negatives of our gap; just 'meh' and 'nom', which will do for me! mia, x "Passion should believe itself irresistible. It should forget civility and consideration and all the other curses of a refined nature." | |
| 27 Mar 10, 10:28 AM Dapper_Dom 2 yrs |
For me personally, I don't think that age difference necessarily enhances or hinders a relationship. A significant age gap can, however, be an issue for those who specifically or particularly like people older or younger than themselves. For example, if someone finds older people far more attractive than younger ones, but is in a relationship with a younger person, then it may well cause a problem. I have noticed that in MaleDom/Femsub relationships it is common for the Dom to be a few years older than His sub. Sometimes, in fact, many years older.
Edited 27 Mar 10, 11:27 AM by Dapper_Dom |
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