Look I don't want kids so just FUCK OFF! (27)

Well I've been through the care system and experianced what happens to children who are not wanted.

I totally respect anyone who wants them or doesn't but if people do than I hope they've made sure thay know what they're getting into and not having them as some kind of accessory - that really makes me mad.

And no, I don't consider myself less of a person or a woman just because I don't have them; nor do I think or feel that I've missed out on something. Only thing I will say is that I've lost a few good friends over the years as they've had children and just disappeared from my life and that does make me sad.

xxx

It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not. - Andre Gide
"When you hold me it's like two whirlwinds combined, sparkling and dancing across the sky" - Lady Midnight.

I constantly hear people going on about kids being annoying, fed up of baby talk, bla bla bla more so than I have ever heard people say anything derogatory about those of you who choose not to have them.

I can't believe I've no control
It's all deranged - Bowie
"Computer games don't affect kids. I mean if Pacman affected our generation, we'd all be running around in darkened rooms, munching pills and listening to repetitive music."

Plus especially for working mothers there is this constant assumption that you will use your kid as an excuse to shirk bla bla bla. I work shift work in a predominantly male workplace and I feel like I have to bend over backwards to prove myself. People who don't have kids also have personal problems and family issues - a childless male colleague was supported for months when his father was ill (quite rightly so) but if I were to need similar support for child-related issues I guarantee the attitude would be very different.

"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates

There also seems to be this assumption that all women have a yearning to be mothers. Not all of us. I love being auntie to everyone else's kids, and that's enough for me.

If you like it, do it. If you don't like it, do it anyway.

• One day, I'm going to die.
• I don't want kids.

Gary.

Everyone who lives dies, but not everyone who dies has truly lived.
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What is there to understand? She was never that interested in children, has everything she wants and is financially secure enough to never need to work again. I don't suspect she became bored with the 'jetset' lifestyle but I know she did. There was only so much she could do, the next logical step was having a baby in her late 30s. Whether that's more meaningful I don't know, what is 'meaningful'? I am sure people find purpose and meaning in many different ways, I don't believe that having children is more meaningful than helping disabled people, protecting the environment or studying animal behaviour.

My priorities in life are different to others, I make no value judgements with regard to the lives of my friends, family or even people I don't know. I do however find it interesting that my friend decided quite late in life that she wanted a baby and it was an example of how people change over time. It wasn't a criticism or anything in case that's what you imply

“During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act” - George Orwell

Edited 22 Mar 10, 8:53 PM by MissKimberley