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| Fri 19 Mar 10, 9:40 AM Vamp_Mystik UK(WA), 3 yrs   |
Though I realise a profile is only one dimensional, Im seriously wondering what generally makes one real / fake.. etc etc There are two or three that I have read which stand out to me. Two by their pic's and writing and one on humour.. I never consider those with names only. Speaking personally, Mine is clear and real but written in the 3rd person. I know obviously that if you really want to get to know someone you memo them initially etc . But invariably, the profile (unless they write and chat via threads) is often the first thing someone will refer to. The other way of course is through munches etc.
Like most social webby's you find people saying anything and fantasising. But a shame, certainly on here. Nature of the beast I guess ! Whats your take? The challenge is to be yourself, in a world that is trying to make you like everyone else...... Edited Fri 19 Mar 10, 9:42 AM by Vamp_Mystik | ||
| 19 Mar 10, 9:45 AM FairyGirl UK(YO), 3 yrs   |
You can almost have a checklist of the major points that come on when people talk about profiles. One is the (generally) male submissive paragraph. It will be between 4 and 12 lines long, with barely any punctuation, spelling or grammar and it will basically tell you where they are and what they want. It will also be littered with typos that they don't care about, because they're not bothered about making an impression on somebody. They just want to be picked.I've had it many a time where the profile text is copied into a first memo too. Very funny! That's the main one for me. One paragraph that's never changed - they're not using it as a way to engage other people, they've put up the bare details and hope that someone picks them based on that, when really, people meeting other people need more than that. Effort, guys! "Nothing saves anyone's life, Sir. It just postpones their death." - Posner , The History Boys. Edited 19 Mar 10, 9:47 AM by FairyGirl | ||
| 19 Mar 10, 9:45 AM subette 2 yrs |
Makes: Info on what the person likes (i.e. not just 'I am the dommest dom/me of them all - I will dom you!' / 'I am the subbiest sub of them all - you can do anything to me. Punish me!' Breaks: no info Really basic I know, but there are soooooo many ICers who should take note... Subette I want to reconcile the violence in your heart. I want to recognize your beauty is not just a mask. - Muse, Undisclosed desires Edited 19 Mar 10, 9:46 AM by subette | ||
| 19 Mar 10, 9:46 AM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs |
I don't have set rules but I need someone who is clever and well educated and loves words and all those things can be shown or not shown in a profile. Obviously the basic things like are they single and dominant matter a huge amount. Other than that the longer the better. Someone who thinks 3 paragraphs is long is not going to be the sort of person I'd want to be with for the rest of my life. | ||
| 19 Mar 10, 9:50 AM roymondo UK(LN), 4 yrs |
Good that we think people actually read the profile. One forum of which I am a member has a number of 'idiots' whose opening gambit when they call you is: "asl?" Try reading the profile dummy. Also have the courtesy to have your own profile or at least offer your 'asl'. Their next question is "what are you in to?" Try reading the profile dummy. Also have the courtesy to tell me what YOU are interested in.
Fortunately there is a BLOCK button. | ||
| 19 Mar 10, 9:51 AM Fitznicely UK(B), 2 yrs |
My best friend, growing up, was a compulsive lair, so my BS-meter is pretty well tuned. I look for inconsistencies, overblown egotism, anything that seems too perfect or unrealistic, strange use of language (that can't be put down to the person's grasp of the language), obviously fake pics, posting history, blog usage, etc. Overall, I just get a feeling, and being quite an instinctive kinda guy, I normally go with that. I think that's what most people do if they're interested in someone, to be honest, but I've been told again and again that it's not, so...*shrug*. You know they say it's always the quiet ones you have to watch? That's me. | ||
| 19 Mar 10, 10:00 AM BlueStar UK(GU), 5 yrs |
(To me) If someone can't get their point across in two paragraphs then they probably talk too much in real life too. A long winded profile is just that... | ||
| 19 Mar 10, 10:05 AM Lorelay UK(WC), 3 yrs |
I agree with this. In my opinion, something that gets across an idea of the personality, likes and dislikes of the person in a couple of paragraphs is much better and more readable than something that takes 10 minutes to read. Also, its far better to leave some things unsaid...I would much prefer to get to know someone through talking to them rather than reading about their life history first. | ||
| 19 Mar 10, 10:08 AM Ms_Eve_White UK, 8 yrs £ |
I can't stand long winded profiles! Postings can reveal far more: Profiles need to be factual. The rest can be drawn out over time. you are a number. you are not a free man. | ||
| 19 Mar 10, 10:10 AM Ms_Eve_White UK, 8 yrs £ |
Well put. you are a number. you are not a free man. | ||
| 19 Mar 10, 10:10 AM spirifer UK, 6 yrs |
I really hate the "I like"-followed-by-a-long-list-of-stuff type profiles. They make me think the profile owner has the mental age of a teenager, defined by his/her pop music tastes. I love intelligently funny profiles - Dean's always used to make me laugh. Mine is totally crap but, then, I'm not looking. Ah semen. What is it about that ridiculous white secretion that pulls down the corners of an Englishman's mouth? |
