| 19 Mar 10, 6:59 AM crystaltips UK(S), 5 yrs  |
I try to see them the way they identify - I know that's the "correct" thing to do. Unfortunately, reality isn't always as neat as that and I know some transgendered people that I have to continually remind myself to be careful with pronouns around. I tend to want to use the gender I perceive tham as at the time (I guess most people do) and I can think of at least one who I have changed in my mind from female to male over the course of about 18 months and another who I tend to see as genderless (though still incredibly hot). Sorry if this answer offends anyone but I thought honesty was more valuable than political correctness. | ||
| 19 Mar 10, 8:45 AM Kobal1 UK(CM), 2 yrs £    |
I believe you should treat them as the gender they wish to be classed as, which seems to be the consensus.. although having worked directly with a transsexual.. was quite an experience knowing her as a man for 18 moths before being told he was taking a break and coming back as a women.. but she happy in her gender so we adapt.
Basicly she portrays herself to be female so we treat her as such.. took a bit of getting used to but on whole was rather painless, I know I made the odd mistake at start but now, I see her as female.
Don't torture yourself . . . that is my job Latin Saying for the Day: Si hoc legere scis, nimis eruditionis habes | ||
| 19 Mar 10, 12:41 PM Romper 4 yrs |
Whatever gender they present the most or whichever gender they have shown is how I think of them, sometimes it changes tho. You are now breathing manually | ||
| 19 Mar 10, 1:16 PM stormywaters PT, 4 yrs |
It is odd though this business of what exactly it is to be male or female. I mean our bodies are labelled from birth, but there is so much more to it than that. It is one of those mysteries what exactly gender is, one of those things that is more elusive the more you try to identify it. There is so much overlap for one thing. There is a lot of female in me but it doesn't in any way feel as though it conflicts with my masculinity. It actually feels as though it enhances it although I can't explain that. All very odd, gender. That is my considered opinion. All I do know is I don't like gender boundaries, or gender discrimination. It seems fundamentally defensive and negative. My object all sublime... | ||
| 19 Mar 10, 5:13 PM msrubenesque UK(MK), 3 yrs |
I think it was Samuel Taylor Coleridge who said 'A great mind is androgynous', this causes me to believe that most people probably have the potential to be mentally androgynous. So, if I consider that, potentially, we can choose to be any gender we like in our minds, it would have to be the way that each person decides to present themselves to the world that defines their gender. A person's decision (not necessarily made consciously, freely or happily!) of how to present their chosen gender role to the world would therefore be expressed in the way they; choose to dress; the roles they take on; their style; their mannerism, etc. etc. If they choose to define themselves in a certain way and project that image outwards then I would define them in the way they have chosen they would like to be defined. 'My favorite thing is to go where I've never been.' Diane Arbus | ||
| 20 Mar 10, 11:56 AM Grownup_Frankie UK, 4 yrs |
That was nicely expressed.
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| 21 Mar 10, 5:16 PM msrubenesque UK(MK), 3 yrs |
Thank you 
'My favorite thing is to go where I've never been.' Diane Arbus |
