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| 18 Mar 10, 9:55 PM SubStu UK(TF), 2 yrs  |
Well, for myself I do both, but I/m a sub xxx | |
| 18 Mar 10, 10:07 PM viragoangel UK(FY), 5 yrs |
I'm inclined to define a person by how they present themselves. If they dress as/look like a woman then that is how i see them. I'm hetero so would not play with a Domme..whether they had a penis under their clothing or not. If a bi/lesbien female preferred to dress in a masculine fashion i would see them as male. Might even play with them if we got on. As i don't mix sex with bdsm casually it wouldn't be relevant who/what they were under their clothing. Hope that makes sense...i'm a bit mixed up at the moment. jules.x | |
| 18 Mar 10, 10:17 PM rocco_43 UK(RM), 2 yrs |
I think generally society are quite black and white when it comes to genders :- Man has a penis and a woman has a vagina, blah blah .... But if we delve a little deeper, for some people it is not clear cut. Thoughts, feelings and emotions all mixed up in the wrong body type. Having met you only once Pen but I can still see you are in a happy place now but I am sure that wasnt always the case.
Thankyou for the interesting question | |
| 18 Mar 10, 10:17 PM SubStu UK(TF), 2 yrs |
yes, but would you do either? | |
| 18 Mar 10, 10:30 PM rocco_43 UK(RM), 2 yrs |
No I wouldn't, I just prefer women | |
| 18 Mar 10, 10:37 PM SubStu UK(TF), 2 yrs |
i'd be happy being dominated by either | |
| 18 Mar 10, 10:53 PM bossy_bitch UK, 2 yrs |
Isn't it a mixture? Nature/nurture. Sex is normally determined early in gestation, although, like many other things, it occasionally goes awry. It is then further developed by hormones. Gender is usually determined socially. Little girls, wear pink, play with dolls, go to ballet lessons, can cry all they like. Little boys wear blue, don't cry, are allowed to fight and get dirty, etc. Far less clear cut, than it once was, but is still pretty apparent and no doubt is based on some very real physiological differences between the sexes.
I have no doubt I'm a woman. For forty years, once a month, usually for about 3 days, I have to exercise extreme self-control to ensure I don't hurt anyone. For the next 4 days, I could quite happily sit in a heap on the floor and cry If in some future life - I get a choice -I ain't choosing that second X! | |
| 18 Mar 10, 11:02 PM FairyGirl UK(YO), 2 yrs   |
Personally, it's just what my head sees them as. A relatively well-known person on here in my head has always been a bit of a muddle for me. Because I'd never met them, in my head I had no idea how to talk to them whether they were male or female. They identify as queer, whereas when I met them, they were female and nothing else to me, I didn't see any masculinity. All in all, it doesn't matter to me, because they're an utterly lovely person. I often get annoyed that my brain has to have one or the other - I find it inordinately difficult to get my head around those who identify as queer or transgendered or whichever term the person wants to use. I don't think any less of them, I just can't make my head see it as open-plan as they do. I'm a bit of a black-and-white girl. "Nothing saves anyone's life, Sir. It just postpones their death." - Posner , The History Boys. | |
| 18 Mar 10, 11:14 PM SubStu UK(TF), 2 yrs |
Sweetheart I don't care who dominates me. | |
| 18 Mar 10, 11:59 PM epona74 UK(SL), 7 yrs |
Generally speaking, I base someone's gender on what they are comfortable with. If they identify as male, then that's what I consider them to be, and ditto female. I am personally very affected by the energies that someone gives off however, so on a personal relationship level I may not be as comfortable with some people as with others, regardless of how they identify. That's difficult to explain so it makes sense without sounding like I'm stereotyping, because it's quite intangible and difficult to pinpoint. Two roads diverged in a wood and I, I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference. (R. Frost) |
