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| goodghirl |
| 18 Mar 10, 7:43 AM Amber_Light 3 yrs |
I think the huge difference here is, she is not an ex lover who broke your heart. The emotions that are left over from that kind of broken heart often never truly heal but this is a woman who was your best friend. No matter how much of life gets in the way with Jane and I, no matter how much time passes between our even talking on the phone, it is always there....that bond we always had...the trust we always had. We fall back into conversation like we saw each other yesterday. That is what friendship is. We don't expect them to be under are noses all the time but they can be in our thoughts and there for us when we really need them. If things aren't the same as before then yes, it will be sad but i think a friendship like that is worth the risk of a little disappointment. If it isn't worth the risk then it wasn't that special in the first place but I think I know that's not the case here  Have fun reminiscing with her. |
| 18 Mar 10, 10:27 AM Great_Tightness AU, 23 mths  |
Maybe it is not always a disaster - I just reconnected with someone who I had a schoolgirl crush on, but who turned me down flat in about 1974! Over the last year this is the person who has unlocked my own personal Pandora's box of perversion and discovered my inner sub. So far it's been pretty amazing... (but whether it was there all those years ago I don't know...) And for a long time Pooh only said 'Ow'...and 'Oh' |
| 18 Mar 10, 11:31 AM FairyGirl UK(YO), 2 yrs   |
If the only reason you didn't stay in touch was because things got busy etc, then I reckon it'll just be a nice reunion. I remember getting back in touch with one of my closest friends and remembering that we didn't stay in touch because we just didn't have anything in common anymore. It turned out to be a disappointment. "Nothing saves anyone's life, Sir. It just postpones their death." - Posner , The History Boys. |
| 18 Mar 10, 5:19 PM skyfox UK(EH), 4 yrs  |
It is true that you can never go back. But it's also true that lovers and friends are different. I specialise in long-distance friendships where I don't see the other person for sometimes years at a time. Each time I go back to these friends, things pick up just about as well as the last time we met. The only thing to keep in mind is that you have to accept her as she is now, not as she was. It's easier with friends than with lovers, because normally with lovers we're as concerned with the potential person as we are with the actual person. In friendships it's much easier to appreciate the actual person and say to hell with the potential person. And besides, it's not like you'll be living with her. Go for lunch, and if it sucks, it doesn't matter. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. |
