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| 18 Mar 10, 7:26 PM Adverse_Camber UK, 3 yrs   |
L'Oreal... "I see the shooting stars falling through your trembling hands..." | |
| 19 Mar 10, 12:00 AM Ithaca4922 UK(SW), 2 yrs |
For too many years, if there had been an Oscar for rubbish partner in bed, I could have been a contender. Happily, through acknowledging my real sexuality, with the right partner I discovered a generous sensuality and delight in the possibilities of an intimate, full-blooded relationship between a man and a woman that, um, I now doubt is actually possible in the vanilla context. Don't want to fall into the trap of trashing normal sex because that is arrogant, but the years of keeping this side of myself under wraps were not good ones. Kink relationships demand more commitment ... more is on the line in the way we relate to each other. I am glad and grateful now for being an honest submissive than a dishonest normal. Also glad to be part of a community of like minds, however loosely constructed it is. Bring on the cane the whip and the love! Ithaca xxx | |
| 19 Mar 10, 7:19 PM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs |
I think because I'm passive and sub I might not appear very good in bed actually either or have appeared so but to a dominant man who is prefectly happy that he directs things it can be wonderful to have someone submissive. It's just a question of matching mutual needs. If you're vanilla submissive women can be very dull - you probably want someone initiating things all the time.
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| 19 Mar 10, 8:50 PM strongarm CH, 6 yrs |
Massive erections. | |
| 19 Mar 10, 10:56 PM Dapper_Dom 2 yrs |
In my opinion, seeking of D/s as something one "does" is devaluing it. It is not a hobby or leisure. It's a profound dynamic, for some people providing the basis of not only their relationship(s) but also lifestyle. For me, being dominant isn't a choice; it's intrinsic within me.
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| 20 Mar 10, 12:08 AM Incandescence UK, 3 yrs |
Isn't anything that makes you hapy worth doing? And isn't the fact that it makes you happy reason enough to do it? Disclaimer - within the realms of informed consent of course. @Strictly_SnM discussion group | |
| 20 Mar 10, 12:10 AM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs |
Yes denying your true nature is not going to make your partner happy nor those who share your life so better to have a relationship which enables you to be yourself. Although I don't agree that is is always morally right to put personal happiness first. Depends on the circumstances.
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