Ask IC: Why do you think D/s is worth doing? (27)

I really think this is worth doing! First of all it is an adventure, and I love adventures. All experience (and I've got a fair amount) points to this sort of dynamic being good for me.

It teaches me how to be a better communicator, more patient, and most importantly, more honest.

It makes you happy?

It completes you and your BDSM-orientated desires?

It's not?

I'm not sure if I think D/s is worth doing but that's probably because I've only had tastes of D/s throughout the past few years rather than a concrete D/s relationship.

People who are in or have had D/s relationships might be able to write better posts about their personal thoughts on it.

However, I think D/s is worth doing if you feel that it is. If it makes you, and your partner/s, happy. If you get something positive out of it. If it makes you and your life better.

Then it might just be worth it.

xX Goldie Xx

b) Because you meet someone who evokes a powerful feeling of wanting put them on a pedestal and serve them, or else to reign over them from an elevated position and control them - provided of course they wish to do the complimentary thing.

c) Neither of the above. In which case it probably isn't worth doing - it honestly won't be all that exciting for you or anyone else if your heart isn't really in it!

I AM THE GOD OF HELL-FIRE!.....but its my lunch break right now

I've tried the alternative to D/s - vanilla. BORING I can't cope with vanilla, I get bored way too quickly.

For me, D/s is a lifestyle. It is the way I live and not something I think about doing from time to time. It doesn't mean I'm, a 24/7 sub, or would want to be. But the D/s way of life is for me.

Why do I like it?

It completes me. It's fun and challenges my imagination. Nothing in the vanilla word compares to the level and variety of sensations one can experience through BDSM play.

I also adore pain, and mentioned here: http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/266922/

So, to ask me to live without D/s would be like asking me to live without water.

I love the Ask IC: btw

Pen

You say Ouch like it's a bad word.

The whole thing is totally irrational. We do it because we are irrational beings at the mercy of obsessions and compulsions we do not understand.

It is not "worth doing" exactly. There are no schools in Domination and Submission for people who have no skill and no inclination for it. No-one aspires to it. It's just one of those things people do, like eating, drinking, shitting and pissing.

I have to second and third this, as for me: I could not live without D/s to do so, is like taking away the oxygen i need to breath.

By the way, how does it teach one to be more honest? you either are are arn't....

The highest fences we have to climb, are those we have built within our mind

Edited 18 Mar 10, 8:12 AM by angellover

How so? Surely you're either honest or you're not?

Ah semen. What is it about that ridiculous white secretion that pulls down the corners of an Englishman's mouth?
The state has no business in the bedrooms of the nation - Pierre Trudeau
A denizen of a right little, tight little island.

Looking back to where this all started for me however, i can answer your question by saying - Is it worth being happy? The answer surely has to be YES!

gabrielle x

"There is no such thing as liberty. You only change one sort of domination for another. All we can do is to choose our master." D. H. Lawrence
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I don't have much of a choice, I can try to have a 'normal vanilla' relationship but fail miserably. Can't change what I am.

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Whether there is worth in it... hopefully. If you're with someone dominant whom you love and please them and make them happy, that's nice... if nice is the right word. It's what I like to do. But there is that difference between engaging in exciting kinky sexual practices and living in a D/s relationship. Mind you I wouldn't want to submit to someone who wanted missionary position sex once a month with the light out as his dominance of me no matter how much he controlled me outside of that.