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| 20 Mar 10, 1:51 PM Sista_Sadista UK(EX), 4 yrs  |
Neither is necessarily 'true'. I think that over familiarity / exposure can potentially 'water down' the edginess between a sadists and a masochist just as I believe that a deeper connection and understanding of each other can allow the dynamics to be really tested. The symbiotic element in a really meaningful relationship will leave both s & m feeling invigorated. If that is not happening at both levels neither will feel fully satisfied. Also remember that a caring Dominant will know what His/Her sub NEEDS. Not just desires. There are many people that actively NEED a level of pain, be it emotional or physical, and to deny them or ease off would certainly not be looking after or protecting them. I would also add that the anonymity / objectification angle certainly cranks up the sadistic tendencies in My personality! you are a number. you're not a free man. Edited 20 Mar 10, 1:57 PM by Sista_Sadista | |
| 5 Apr 10, 9:40 PM slave_24 UK(BS), 4 yrs  |
Nope but my Mistress understands me far better than when we started and back when we first started she got me quite well.She is a lot more protective and you see different sides of her personality which is good.But if i mess up.She isnt going to go easy. Were on an adventure hunting for treasure | |
| 7 Apr 10, 3:38 PM Ama_Sidero UK(GU), 7 yrs       |
Conversely, do you think that subs, as they become more secure in the relationship, are less interested/tolerant in pain as the adrenaline from play becomes more a normal thing? Or is that just a direct result of us becoming more harsh? LOL
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| 7 Apr 10, 10:04 PM DominaFire UK(RG), 3 yrs |
I have been in relationship for a few months now and would say that I am definitely more sadistic, this i would think is because i know him so much better and can read his reactions so well. I therefore push him harder each time we play. I have been experimenting and indeed he is very well-behaved in that he doesn't lead me to what he likes and lets me find my own way, much more exciting that way and enhances our play no end.
"Eats shoots and leaves" or maybe "Eats, shoots and leaves" | |
| 10 Apr 10, 8:33 PM freecroma HU, 2 yrs |
The thing is plainer according to me. The mistress knew you better, she can take into consideration from your real idea of femdom secret already, that she suspected only from your incomplete descriptions till now. She may be not less severe she turned into cleverer one based on her new experiences from you got. The first meetings are successful rarely. The sub is unable to report his dreams or his desire accurately well since he himself does not know their big part, it is in the unconscious. Nobody is capable to control his unconscious.
Navigare necesse est, vivere non. | |
| 10 Apr 10, 10:12 PM changedboy 2 yrs |
clearly i can't offer a personal perspective on this, though it would seem from the posts made that the opposite view is more popular.. I do have the view though that female dommes are more sadistic ( in the main ) than male doms. Having been in the scene for a long time, the more vicious acts of domination ( and i say that in an admiring sense ) have come from female dommes rather than male doms. Not sure why that should be - but it's often been a source of wonder for me. And like i say, i'm very impressed.. | |
| 10 Apr 10, 10:16 PM DominaFire UK(RG), 3 yrs |
After posting on here the other day I asked my sub if he felt/thought I had become more sadistic and he replied that he felt it was more a case of being able to read him and his responses and push him harder. However, I think I am more sadisitic than I was. "Eats shoots and leaves" or maybe "Eats, shoots and leaves" | |
| 17 Apr 10, 1:36 AM maid_jenny1 UK(NN), 6 yrs |
Not that I've noticed, all the dommes I've served have increased the severity as time has gone by. It's mainly that they learn to read your reactions better and can tell when you are approaching your limit by your body language. Only when a domme is confident that she can read you properly can she really begin to push you to and hold you at your limit, occasionally pushing just past it to help you raise it higher. I'd of thought any good, caring domme will tend to take it easy at first and build up over time. | |
| 17 Apr 10, 1:52 AM MistressRouge UK(B), 6 yrs £ |
Less sadistic?
Never " The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it. Resist it
and your soul grows sick with longing, for the things it has forbidden
itself"
Oscar Wilde |
