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| Fri 12 Mar 10, 10:03 PM Ouroboros UK(M), 4 yrs  |
I was talking to a friend about the Rules and protocols thread, and we got onto the subject of respect. I mentioned to my friend that I thought that respect wasn't mentioned in that particular thread my friend mentioned that it because respect is taken for granted, (I am saying here that I may have misunderstood what my said). So my question is, is respect taken for granted and if it is, is it something that should be taken for granted? (Edited because I have re-read the OP and I obviously missed some text out. Guess that will teach me to watch tv and post on IC) Adama: What do you hear, Starbuck? Edited Sat 13 Mar 10, 7:14 AM by Ouroboros | ||||
| 12 Mar 10, 10:07 PM totallycoverme UK(M), 4 yrs |
I think respect is far too often overlooked! Like I think it's something that should go without saying but recent experience has suprised me into thinking that one of the most basic actions of giving respect must feel like an exceptional act for some people to carry out. To cut a long story short, I really think that to treat others respectfully should go without saying but there seem to be a number of dominants out there who confuse dominance with being an arsewhole and think that they are somehow exempt from having to treat a submissive with respect. So yeah, Dom/sub/whatever, there should ALWAYS be respect! It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice | ||||
| 12 Mar 10, 10:10 PM El_Presidente UK(G), 4 yrs    |
Maybe 'taken as read' would be a slightly more apt expression than 'taken for granted', but essentially, yes - respect should be there without having to be explicitly negotiated. "Never do today what you can do tomorrow" | ||||
| 12 Mar 10, 10:14 PM xx_SweetS_xx UK, 3 yrs    |
My thoughts exactly.
(Luv your new pic btw) )}*>~;.;~<*{( | ||||
| 12 Mar 10, 10:17 PM Ouroboros UK(M), 4 yrs |
I completely agree!!! Adama: What do you hear, Starbuck? | ||||
| 12 Mar 10, 10:18 PM jules9 UK(CH), 2 yrs    |
I'm with Laura here, it has to work both ways. The confusion may be that there are so many different situations where respect may or may not be applicable, but overall it is something that has to be a given. XxX | ||||
| 12 Mar 10, 10:18 PM totallycoverme UK(M), 4 yrs |
thanks It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice | ||||
| 12 Mar 10, 10:21 PM xx_SweetS_xx UK, 3 yrs |
Quite right too, it's a damn good pic.
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| 12 Mar 10, 10:25 PM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs  |
If both people don't have an element of respect for each other why would they be playing together? Surely... it would be naive for anyone to play with another if they didn't feel a certain amount of respect (as well as trust) in them. Playing without mutual respect could lead to all sorts of issues and unpleasantness and I would hope that no-one would choose to submit to me if they didn't respect me... I certainly wouldn't want to dominate someone if I didn't respect them (or if I felt they didn't respect me) - I'd want to give them a wide berth. So, yes.... I'd say that if people don't respect each other it would be futile to try to impose rules and protocols on a submissive who'd be likely to be disobedient, due to their disrespect for the dominant. "Truth is stranger than fiction." | ||||
| 12 Mar 10, 10:25 PM Vamp_Mystik UK(CH), 2 yrs |
Well as far as Im concerned Respect should Always be earned by each person... To be assumed or taken for granted makes it false... The challenge is to be yourself, in a world that is trying to make you like everyone else...... | ||||
| 12 Mar 10, 10:30 PM Ouroboros UK(M), 4 yrs |
I should really have stated that I don't think that respect should be taken for granted and like people have said said if the respect is there then people shouldn't be playing. I only ask because from what I have seen respect isn't something that is mentioned much on the scene, yet it is an important part of it. Or at least thats how I feel. Adama: What do you hear, Starbuck? |
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