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| Thu 11 Mar 10, 12:11 PM ladydomme309 UK(M), 2 yrs  |
Its time to step out of the privacy and safety of our box and get out into the big wide world to explore and learn more! Ive been with my submissive guy for just over 5 years now and we have finally decided to get out there and go public so to speak - he's very anxious as we've been very private up until now and - if Im going to be completely honest - Im a tad anxious of not making a complete fool of us both too -so any advice on the most gentle way to introduce ourselves to the community would be gratefully received  Edited Thu 11 Mar 10, 12:23 PM by ladydomme309 | |
| 11 Mar 10, 12:21 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs       |
A very big welcome to you Patience is bitter - but its fruit is sweet. | |
| 11 Mar 10, 12:24 PM ladydomme309 UK(M), 2 yrs |
thank you | |
| 11 Mar 10, 12:26 PM SirOpenSource UK(E), 6 yrs   |
'Ladydomme Hangs Knickers On Wrong Board' A possible upcoming headline? SOS I believe in equality for everyone, except reporters and photographers. - Mahatma Gandhi | |
| 11 Mar 10, 12:27 PM Purrfect_Kit UK(G), 2 yrs |
Hi, another "newbie" here
What really helped me was talking to people online and at one point i went to a munchie. Wich really opened up my world Miauw, Kit "I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." | |
| 11 Mar 10, 12:43 PM BigOldHector UK(DE), 10 yrs |
Sounds like you two would be ideal candidates for a munch. Thats about as pressure-free an environment as you can get in which to meet other Ds-aware and kink-aware people and make new friends you can be open with about your way of life. If you enquire on one of the regional or events boards someone here is bound to know of one or more in your area. I AM THE GOD OF HELL-FIRE!.....but its my lunch break right now | |
| 11 Mar 10, 12:49 PM LadyKayleigh UK(BN), 5 yrs |
Welcome in the big exciting world! Munches - and also fetish markets are a good place to meet new people in a relaxed and friendly atmosphere. There is no pressure to "not making a fool of you", as they're just normal meetings with other kinksters. Munches are usually completely vanilla - mostly in a pub. There is usually no dresscode at all (as they are vanilla venues) and no play either, just a way to get to know others. Some people however prefer fetish markets - as you can have a stroll around, look at stalls and presentations - and also get to know other people. Most fetish markets have a "can but don't have to" dressing up policy and some have areas where play is allowed. For events in your area, have a look at the calender
currently organising:
The @Femdom_Munch - Every last Sunday in Central London! | |
| 11 Mar 10, 1:33 PM OllieVW  2 yrs |
My advise dont care what other people think yoour doing it for eachother and nobody else. If people are lame enoough to ridicule or pass negative comments then their not worth knowing. Your lucky as Manchester and your surrounding areas have an abundance of events, munches, clubs, fairs etc.. and most are very welcoming.
Lash is a great club, fetish and play and the dungeon is seperate and unless your playing nobody is allowed in to perv Just be yourself, play at your own level and expertise and have fun. Youll make friends for the kind of people you are not how you play. Best of all youll learn and develope, pick up tips.
Have fun "Its all about the experience"
"Its Cheeky Time" OllieVW | |
| 11 Mar 10, 1:54 PM Outlier 2 yrs |
Welcome to you both. It might seem daunting at first, but there is absolutely nothing to fear. I concur with the suggestion a good first step would be going to a couple of munches. These a merely a very casual gathering of like minded people, and easy way for you both to "dip your toes in the water", so to speak.
I wish you both well.
O "I am from nowhere and everywhere" Karl Lagerfeld |
Its was so nice to talk to like minded people, and i felt like i was at the right place 
