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| 12 Mar 10, 10:25 PM twistit69 UK(CW), 3 yrs  |
Look mate , you can call me Northern for this but.... She is your new girlfriend so far you have not found out that she prefers more slap than tickle. So can we all stop with the bloody trying to attach a Dom/Sub aspect to every part of our fookin lives its getting tiresome. Is it Dom to walk the dog or Sub to put the cat out... who cares. I may be wrong here but a Sub if I remember correctly is a person who by consent gets their kicks out of what is generally seen by nice society as, the filling in a debauchery sandwich. They are not however a none feeling brainless play thing that has to be chaperoned by some insecure tit who thinks he's hard core because he has a 4" flogger. Maybe Subs like men who are able to take control of them, make them do things they would not normally do you know be dominant. If your going to keep asking the rest of us if its ok to pay the bill after a meal, is that really dominant. Do it Adam, just grab that bill and stride through that restaurant with your head held high, think "I'm macho man and I'll take that knife and shove it up your arse..." and you throw caution to the wind. Screw IC and their opinions, you just pay that bill. She will love you for it.. because she still has her taxi fair home. Look I took my sub out for dinner and paid, its how I was brought up it has nothing to do with Dom/Sun I just thought it was a nice thing to do. I was also told not to hit girls but with perseverance and practice I got over that. Do what you feel comfortable with, just don't go on about Battlestar Galactica over dinner... The love doctor is in, standard rates apply except for weekends and after six. | ||||
| 16 Mar 10, 5:59 PM Ouroboros UK(M), 4 yrs  |
Hamlet - (Act I, Scene III) Lord Polonius "This above all: to thine ownself be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man." Adama: What do you hear, Starbuck? | ||||
| 23 Mar 10, 3:22 PM Bald_Rick 2 yrs |
If I invite someone out, I pay. If they invite me, they pay. It keeps things simple | ||||
| 23 Mar 10, 4:11 PM BadWulf UK(TA), 6 yrs |
If a subbie comes to visit then I expect them to get here at their own cost, after that if they are short of cash I generally look after everything. Clubs /food/transport etc. Maybe they treat me during this period if they can. its give n take and mutual respect neh?
If they were equally comfortable financially, then I suspect we would share the costs but up the standard When my sub used to come visit from America, she would shove a few hundred squids in my hand saying "you use this as you wish" after that I took care of all bills, it was never discussed or an issue.
Its never really ever been a issue I would worry about actually, it is what it is, why stress Having said all that on a first date, I would usually happily offer to pay, tis just how I am, I enjoy good company! However certainly wouldn't be offended if she refused. - Wulfy
My, what sharp teeth I have. Edited 23 Mar 10, 4:20 PM by BadWulf | ||||
| 23 Mar 10, 6:59 PM CarolinaMoon IE, 5 yrs |
I have been on a first date with a dom and insisted on buying dinner. I can't remember the occasion...may have been his birthday or him getting a new job or something. Even though I had never met him before I wanted to treat him so I did. I suspect that it may have embarrassed him but there was a good reason for me doing it. Other first dates - it has depended on the situation but a lot of the time I have at least offered to go halves.
My partner and I tend to take turns. For example this weekend he paid for lunch and I paid for the cinema and sweeties |
certainly I don't think I should pay cos I am "Dom" (hear me Roar) 