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| Sat 6 Mar 10, 10:26 PM Ouroboros UK(M), 4 yrs  |
I think that i may have posted this before, but i am not to sure. I have recently started dating a girl and although she is not in the scene i am still curious. I was brought up to act like a gentleman when going on dates none of the going dutch. I paid and even if i couldn't afford to pay i still paid and i was just curious if the same rule still applied if it was a sub i was dating? I dont think that it would make me any less of a dom if i paid. What do other people think? I guess i am more interested in the doms perspective but all replies are welcome. Adama: What do you hear, Starbuck? Starbuck: Nothing but the rain, sir. Adama: Then get your gun, and bring the cat in. Starbuck: Boom boom boom. Edited Sat 6 Mar 10, 10:28 PM by Ouroboros | ||
| 6 Mar 10, 10:34 PM Thistle US, 4 yrs |
Why in the world would a sub pay, just because s/he's submissive? If you're talking about a professional relationship, that's different. But for a personal one, although there are a minefield of issues and expectations determining who should pay, I just don't see being D or s as one of them. love the brave but avoid cowards, knowing the gratitude of cowards is small ~Praxilla of Sicyon | ||
| 6 Mar 10, 10:37 PM MzClio UK(GU), 2 yrs       |
Why not take it in turns, Defiled is my name full sore Through cruel spite and false report That I may say for evermore Fairwell to joy, adieu comfort For wrongfully ye judge of me Unto my fame a mortal wound Say what ye list, it may not be Ye seek for that shall not be found.. Anne Boleyn ...... | ||
| 6 Mar 10, 10:37 PM jules9 UK(CH), 2 yrs    |
If it makes a Dom/me happy to pay, then he/she pays. Simples! Dom/mes worrying about what others think about how "dominant" an act is, is a logic that doesn't work in my mind. XxX | ||
| 6 Mar 10, 10:40 PM Ouroboros UK(M), 4 yrs |
Adama: What do you hear, Starbuck? Starbuck: Nothing but the rain, sir. Adama: Then get your gun, and bring the cat in. Starbuck: Boom boom boom. | ||
| 6 Mar 10, 10:43 PM Eclectic_shock UK(SW), 7 yrs |
Er.... (peeks inside the can of worms)... think this is down to each of you, not a dom/sub thing Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
Bloody Satnav | ||
| 6 Mar 10, 10:43 PM Ouroboros UK(M), 4 yrs |
Adama: What do you hear, Starbuck? Starbuck: Nothing but the rain, sir. Adama: Then get your gun, and bring the cat in. Starbuck: Boom boom boom. | ||
| 6 Mar 10, 10:44 PM MisterBear UK(WA), 8 yrs  |
If you're in charge then it's up to you how you deal with things. But it's what works for your relationship. My current plaything travels to my place, so as she's paying for that, to balance things out I take care of all the food and drink. I always behave. I just don't specify how. | ||
| 6 Mar 10, 10:49 PM Thistle US, 4 yrs |
I apologize if I misunderstood your question. Or worse, made it seem that you don't have the right to ask questions. I think that whatever you are comfortable with is the right thing for you. If your date is at all compatible with you, that will also be the right thing for her.
love the brave but avoid cowards, knowing the gratitude of cowards is small ~Praxilla of Sicyon | ||
| 6 Mar 10, 10:55 PM smoofing UK(SW), 2 yrs |
i love a dominant partner paying for things. not because im poor (which i am) but because its a lovely touch to feel looked after and taken care of.
in vanilla world, i love paying when im out with a woman, makes me feel good, and shows her that i want to look after her and that i will sacrifice some part of my earnings so that she has a good time. so it's nice to have the tables turned. dosen't mean they have to pay for my life, or vis a versa, it's the little touches that make things yummy
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| 6 Mar 10, 10:57 PM Ouroboros UK(M), 4 yrs |
Adama: What do you hear, Starbuck? Starbuck: Nothing but the rain, sir. Adama: Then get your gun, and bring the cat in. Starbuck: Boom boom boom. |
