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| Fri 5 Mar 10, 11:44 PM late_starter UK(NN), 3 yrs  |
I am never sure whether this site is the right place for me. There are certain things that I want to try and need the help, guidance and encouragement of someone that I trust ... some of those characteristics are those of a Domme but am I just confusing friendship with domination? |
| 5 Mar 10, 11:50 PM lima_pink_tigress 3 yrs |
It's quite difficult to tell but from looking at your profile you seem to want to experience these things for you and not particularly out of submission or masochism. I may be wrong but I'd suggest that what you're really lookign for is the encouragment, confidence and acceptance to be able to be that part of you without feelings of guilt or ridicule (unless you actually wnat to be 'forced' to dress as a woman). What I don't understand is why your 'friendship' needs to be discrete (unless it's just to avoid awkward questions) if it's only to involve the kind of thing you ask for in your profile. @Strictly_SnM discussion group |
| 5 Mar 10, 11:53 PM late_starter UK(NN), 3 yrs |
I guess there is a part of me that doesnt accept what I seem to want to experience and maybe the encouragement of someone else takes away that 'guilt'. The discretion relates to keeping it apart from the vanilla part of my life as that would probablyt be damaging and Im not ready and would not want to hurt others. |
| 5 Mar 10, 11:57 PM tv_photographic UK(SE), 2 yrs |
Its understandable that descretion is necessary for some as Home, work lives etc often do not except this life-style particulary when dressing. A lot of my photography clients require descretion to the point of paronioer BDSM is for everyone who wants it and should not be discounted. Have you considered a dressing service |
| 6 Mar 10, 12:01 AM late_starter UK(NN), 3 yrs |
I have vaguely considered it but what I feel I need is someone who wants to share it with me and a service seems a bit cold and distant. I am not sure that I could open up under thise circumstances ... thanks for the thought though  |
| 6 Mar 10, 12:43 AM El_Presidente UK(G), 4 yrs    |
It sounds like you have two options, realistically. Firstly, you could get involved with the 'scene' generally, by attending some real-life events and hopefully meeting friends in the process, some of whom may be able to help you. However, if you're in a relationship and you're trying to be as discrete as possible, then I guess that might not be a practical option, or indeed an efficient use of your time. The other option (and possibly your best bet) would be to pay for the services of someone who specialises in leading people through the sort of transformation that you're looking for.
I know that @Mistress_Avralivia specialises in this sort of thing, and although I don't have any personal experience of her services (not my cuppa tea Good luck! "I am Zebedee, lord of the woods! Bow down snail, I have dominion!" ~ W. Bailey |
), I can assure you that she's a very nice lady. 