This post is on the SM/Bondage/Fetish web board (moved from D/s & M/s).
| Fri 5 Mar 10, 4:06 PM stormywaters PT, 4 yrs |
Someone read a short depiction of an erotic, sadomasochistic encounter I wrote as a blog and said: I don't read very much prose like that written by Doms. It was very revealing how hurting someone was such a turn on. I responded: Yes that is the heart of the matter, of sadism; the heart of mine anyway. It always makes me think of those Russian dolls, one inside the other. There is a doll of sadism and inside her a doll of genuine warmth and caring and inside her a doll of sadism... And it is all love. Rather beautiful really IMHO. I always experience a masochistic (I don't like the word masochistic for some reason, whereas I think sadism is exactly right) girl as very giving when she suffers for me. It is that strange, strange dynamic that is like the foot of the rainbow, the more you try to define it, to locate it the more elusive it is. But it is very beautiful, the multi coloured dance of the sadist and the sufferer, and so powerful, so deeply erotic. I love it that submissive girls always want to know that their Dom really enjoys himself when he beats them. I think the meanest thing a Dom can do is hide his pleasure at her suffering. It is after all her trophy, her prize, that she has given him such pleasure at such cost to her. *************************************************** ******** I would love to hear, from sadistic men especially, simply because that is who I am, about how they experience their sadism, how they feel about it and how they feel about the girls who suffer at their hands. Just any sort of thoughts or musings. What's it like for you?
My object all sublime... | ||
| 5 Mar 10, 4:11 PM salacious UK(NN), 2 yrs  |
I adore the growling laugh I get sometimes when the person hurting me is really enjoying themselves. It turns my knees to jelly and gives me butterflies in my stomach. It's one of the biggest parts of why I enjoy what I do, I love the pain, but I adore pleasing someone by letting them enjoy my pain. fear and lust bind me like rope I lose control as You take it from me | ||
| 5 Mar 10, 4:17 PM ukreva UK(PL), 2 yrs |
I'm owned by a sadistic man and I absolutely love the pleasure he gets out of hurting me. His eyes just light up, it's wonderful. | ||
| 5 Mar 10, 4:21 PM spirifer UK, 6 yrs |
Mmmm mmmm mmmmmmm! I particularly love watching him stroke his erect cock whilst he's standing over me, hurting me. My moans and struggles just make him harder. Ah semen. What is it about that ridiculous white secretion that pulls down the corners of an Englishman's mouth? | ||
| 5 Mar 10, 4:31 PM Stillyet UK(DG), 2 yrs  |
OK, I still have real trouble with my sadism. It is part of me, but I have very rarely allowed myself to express it fully. But you're absolutely right that a woman who makes her body vulnerable to you knowing that you will hurt it is doing the most generous and beautiful thing a person can do. There may be some people who actually enjoy being hurt as such. As a cyclist I certainly know the endorphin rush you can get when pushing your body to its limits. But there is a big difference between pushing yourself to your own limits, knowing that you can stop at any time, and putting yourself into the hands of someone else who is deliberately hurting you for their own pleasure and who may or may not stop when you reach your limits. The women who have the courage and generosity to do that - to trust another with their bodies in the knowledge that they will be harmed - have courage an generosity which is far beyond mine. ;; Semper in faecibus sumus, sole profundum variat. | ||
| 5 Mar 10, 4:37 PM Chariots_Rise 3 yrs |
If the receiver is a masochist and getting pleasure from the pain it's hardly an act of generosity.
The South-Dorset munch is here | ||
| 5 Mar 10, 4:39 PM flamesdesire UK(OX), 4 yrs |
I have to agree with both totally. My submission can be at its deepest when he is in one of his 'moods'. Invariably I start crying because of the pain, but the pleasure from his enjoyment helps me to bear it all. jxx | ||
| 5 Mar 10, 4:40 PM Manson UK(M), 2 yrs |
It's one of those things that's hard to explain. When I really get into "top space", it's like I expose this visceral core. It thrills me to hurt, to force, to humiliate - it's the ultimate sexual turn on, but can also be hardly sexual at all, at times. I like whimpering, pleading, begging, resistance - yet outside a BDSM context, those are things that would activate a whole other side of myself. It's the consent aspect that, in a way, allows me to switch off my conditioning, that lets me unleash my inner sadist without my conscience interfering. So the other side of the coin to what I feel, is honour and gratitude and an awesome sense of respect for this other human being who will let me do this to them, who will let me express this self configuration, and trust me enough to feel safe in their vulnerability and suffering.
As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. - Goethe. | ||
| 5 Mar 10, 4:40 PM Mister_Chris UK(M), 2 yrs |
It's not so much the watching her suffer, it's the twinkle in her eye, or the sly grin let slip that amuses and pleases me more. The subtle expressions that show me she's enjoying it as much as I. Any photographer who says he's not a voyeur is either stupid or a liar. - Helmut Newton | ||
| 5 Mar 10, 4:48 PM Lj_switch UK, 2 yrs  |
over the last few months, I have drifted more towards the Dom side of my character, and with the relationship I have with my play-partner, now my sub, I am finding the sadist in me is strengthening. How do you define a sadist ? I don't want to de-rail the thread with an argument in semantics. For me, I am finding pleasure in hurting my sub, watching her expression, coping with the pain I am inflicting. But that is founded on the knowledge that she enjoys her situation. Therefore, I am rewarded in two ways, being able to do something pleasurable and knowing I am giving her pleasure too, albeit in a different way. At the same time, I am honoured by her trust in me, that I will not break our limits, and will respect her as a person and never disregard her safety and well-being. | ||
| 5 Mar 10, 4:52 PM LovingLord UK(SE), 3 yrs |
I for one find causing (consensual) suffering a massive rush. I understand myself quite well, but this is one thing that still holds mystery - I *love* being an old fashioned gentleman, making the people around me feel safe and comfortable. Holding doors open, candlelit dinners for two, long walks by the river or on a beach, sitting by an open fire feeding her chocolate dipped strawberries, guiding her into a room with a hand on the small of her back, staring into her pretty eyes and talking for hours about everything and nothing - the whole thing. So why is being a sadistic, mindfucking bastard such a massive turn on? I'm still trying to work that out. No matter how you look at it though, when done right, S&M is a crazily hot way for two people to bond. Nothing comes close to the feeling of forcing someone to endure an intoxicating mixture of pleasure and pain. Especially when you *know* she's just gonna come crawling back for more (and more) - and she's into all the vanilla gentlemanly stuff too... |
