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Belasarius
Posted by Belasarius on Mon 22 Feb 10, 4:13 PM

O&P meet - Agenda

OK, Agenda is a bit formal, but, another post asked for suggested topics. Here are a few I'd like to air:

D/s in a vanilla context - how do we keep the dynamic going outside the privacy of our homes?

Ritual - making it work, making it real.

A two way street? Who gets what from the relationship?

Domestic routine - how do we live, who does what?

Just a few thoughts - hope they are helpful.

Best to all.

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22 Feb 10, 5:45 PM
mia
UK(M), 2 yrs
I'm so excited about this!
Great thoughts for discussions. I particularly like how Ds/O&P work in vanilla land and the topic of rituals.
I wonder if 'limits and limitations' might be a good topic too. Where control cannot be had over parts of someone's life, for example.
mia, x
"Passion should believe itself irresistible. It should forget civility and consideration and all the other curses of a refined nature. Above all, it should never ask for leave where there is a right of way." @Manchester

22 Feb 10, 6:00 PM
Belasarius
UK(M), 6 yrs
Y!

mia wrote:
I'm so excited about this!
Great thoughts for discussions. I particularly like how Ds/O&P work in vanilla land and the topic of rituals.
I wonder if 'limits and limitations' might be a good topic too. Where control cannot be had over parts of someone's life, for example.
mia, x
Your latter is apposite but difficult for us. I share c_b - and she endeavours to be the best she can for me when I have custody - but lives differently elsewhere. Making this work isn't easy.
Patience is bitter - but its fruit is sweet.
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22 Feb 10, 8:32 PM
mia
UK(M), 2 yrs

Belasarius wrote:
Your latter is apposite but difficult for us. I share c_b - and she endeavours to be the best she can for me when I have custody - but lives differently elsewhere. Making this work isn't easy.
I think that's why O&P works so well as a concept. It acknowledges limitations and parameters (how odd that it's not 'parametres').
No it's not easy, but things rarely are. To quote the over-quoted Mark Twain:

December is the toughest month of the year. Others are July, January, September, April, November, May, March, June, October, August, and February.
mia, x
Edited for spelling
"Passion should believe itself irresistible. It should forget civility and consideration and all the other curses of a refined nature. Above all, it should never ask for leave where there is a right of way." @Manchester
Edited 22 Feb 10, 8:33 PM by mia

23 Feb 10, 8:20 AM
rubesque
UK, 2 yrs
Looking forward to this very much. It will be interesting to see what tips I can pick up (and hopefully) offer!
Ruby
He looked into My eyes, and I almost died. Then I remembered what I was and half killed him.

23 Feb 10, 8:55 AM
De_Luxe
UK, 4 yrs
I'd like to discuss extending D/s into the outside world too.
and if it would interest others
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23 Feb 10, 8:05 PM
Taintedinnocence
UK, 4 yrs

I would quite like to talk about others experiences of "when real life gets in the way" - e.g. work stresses, family difficulties, illness etc - how we can still carry on, for our D/s to make us stronger (which hopefully it does most of the time)

24 Feb 10, 8:14 AM
rubesque
UK, 2 yrs

Taintedinnocence wrote:
I would quite like to talk about others experiences of "when real life gets in the way" - e.g. work stresses, family difficulties, illness etc - how we can still carry on, for our D/s to make us stronger (which hopefully it does most of the time)
This...This is something I would like to explore too.
He looked into My eyes, and I almost died. Then I remembered what I was and half killed him.

24 Feb 10, 2:42 PM
Belasarius
UK(M), 6 yrs
Y!

rubesque wrote:

Taintedinnocence wrote:
I would quite like to talk about others experiences of "when real life gets in the way" - e.g. work stresses, family difficulties, illness etc - how we can still carry on, for our D/s to make us stronger (which hopefully it does most of the time)
This...This is something I would like to explore too.
Very relevant to us: good call.
Patience is bitter - but its fruit is sweet.
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