controlling a sub who has a eating disorder (16)

Of course I would WISH to try, but I would wish to have full and competent knowledge of what I was doing in case I made it worse,by exacerbating or masking it. The best therapy I suggest is to help them to feel very good about themselves, and care for them most tenderly, which could well knock on to mitigating the ED.Also,if pain is the sub's thing,to be exceedingly careful about the target area as a thinning of the coating of body fat would expose the internal organs to a greater possibility of damage.

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Edited 21 Feb 10, 8:31 PM by Cassius

Quite.

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I think that people need to overcome their own problems, find there own solutions. It may be that as a Dominant, they may seek your support, and that may include you controlling their eating. It might be that this helps them while they find their own way to overcome the issue *shrug*

I know that many years ago, when pressurised to give up a self destructive behaviour by an ex, I just transferred to something that was easier to hide.

You can't fix other people. They have to figure out how to fix themselves (with support). I also think that's a good thing... its how you build strength, I can't remember who said it but "without struggle, there can be no progress" or something like that.

Just my opinion, from my own experiences.

Your so pretty when your on your knees. Disinfected, eager to please

I have suffered with bulimia nervosa... meaning when nervous , upset or down i may over eat / binge until i feel sick and need to purge . I have to then throw up at this point./ During the binge of food i am unaware of the amount i am eating but when i feel sick i know exactly what has happened.

I have had Doms try to control this ... telling me to leave the door open so i am not tempted to throw up .

Doms have tried to control the amount i ate also but i have simply hidden food and eaten in secret .

Controlling a eating disorder is not something i think can be controlled via D/s . However having a Dom / Partner who can be a constant support and understanding can help to prevent eating disorder occurence.

Since being with my Dom i have felt more calm , supported and loved , he is always there for me and there to guide and advise . So i am saying that D/s is not the cure but it can be the remedy to relieving the problem

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submission is permission to be yourself without judgment

I'd not generalise that broadly. I think in some situations and with some individuals it can help and I've experienced it helping. It totally depends on the people involved, like with everything.

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I go through episodes of purging disorder rather than bulimia in times of extreme stress, and find that a loving supportive relationship alleviates that stress from becoming extreme and therefore can prevent me from slipping back into purging.

Its no cure, but for me anyway, D/s can help. On the flip side it has also at times made it worse (wanting so desperately to please someone that you stress yourself out and therefore revert to a behaviour which gives you comfort) but I wouldn't have classed that relationship as loving or supportive particularly.

I suppose, like anything, it depends on the individual. Clearly professional help is going to be the best way forward but on the whole, D/s helps me manage this. If I am looking after myself and feeling loved, I'm not going to start with the throwing up every time I eat.

"Love sticks, sweat drips, break the lock if it don't fit."