17 Feb 10, 12:36 PM
merrynb99
UK(SL), 6 yrs
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I must just add, in defence of the OP, he really is a nice guy and he never would abuse his position. I value his integrity; sometimes the words come out onto the page in a way that makes a person seem other than they truly are (he does have a truly evil, off-the-wall sense of humour).
I don't get why people are offended on my behalf (I've had about a dozen private memoes this morning, all offended on my behalf - why!? ). I'm oblivious to all that.
What does offend me is her hypocrisy. No wait; it's the hypocrisy that she can't help participating in; the sense that her religion is so much about self-denial, about so-called "morality". She is so tempted by the "wrongness" of her attraction and her coda is so judgemental about our way of life, yet we are not the ones judging; we do not think she is wrong to desire; we do not follow that kind of moral code. It makes me pity her, more than anything ... A little bad taste is like a nice dash of paprika (D. Parker)
Edited 17 Feb 10, 12:48 PM by merrynb99
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17 Feb 10, 12:49 PM
Hypnotist
UK(RG), 3 yrs
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merrynb99 wrote:
I must just add, in defence of the OP, he really is a nice guy and he never would abuse his position. I value his integrity; sometimes the words come out onto the page in a way that makes a person seem other than they truly are.
I don't get why people are offended on my behalf (I've had about a dozen private memoes this morning, all offended on my behalf - why!? ). I'm oblivious to all that.
What does offend me is her hypocrisy. No wait; it's the hypocrisy that she can't help participating in; the sense that her religion is so much about self-denial, about so-called "morality". She is so tempted by the "wrongness" of her attraction and her coda is so judgemental about our way of life, yet we are not the ones judging; we do not think she is wrong to desire; we do not follow that kind of moral code. It makes me pity her, more than anything ...
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Fucking brilliant. So nice to encounter people, once in a blue moon, you can have a bit of respect for. |
17 Feb 10, 1:01 PM
Adverse_Camber
UK, 3 yrs
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As one without a dick, morals, or religion, I feel I am emminently qualified to comment on this post.
What you should do, without a doubt, is show her this thread and let her read it in its entirety.
That should solve...well...everything really!  "I see the shooting stars falling through your trembling hands..."
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17 Feb 10, 1:01 PM
Manteau
UK(S), 2 yrs
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merrynb99 wrote:
I must just add, in defence of the OP, he really is a nice guy and he never would abuse his position. I value his integrity; sometimes the words come out onto the page in a way that makes a person seem other than they truly are (he does have a truly evil, off-the-wall sense of humour).
I don't get why people are offended on my behalf (I've had about a dozen private memoes this morning, all offended on my behalf - why!? ). I'm oblivious to all that.
What does offend me is her hypocrisy. No wait; it's the hypocrisy that she can't help participating in; the sense that her religion is so much about self-denial, about so-called "morality". She is so tempted by the "wrongness" of her attraction and her coda is so judgemental about our way of life, yet we are not the ones judging; we do not think she is wrong to desire; we do not follow that kind of moral code. It makes me pity her, more than anything ...
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Hmmm, but WE only have the OP's version of events.. and on that we were asked our opinion. You say he's a nice guy, and that's as maybe; but it's pitched in a deliberately intense and IMO a self regarding way. The woman's religious leanings are a red herring; the issue is one of how he's in way asking for a blessing (no punn intended) to use her for his own sexual wants/needs with no consideration to her. I think yes, she could be naive, so does that make it right to exploit it? If the OP needs to get off on that sort of kink, wouldn't it be better to keep it to himself instead of asking for opinions?
Suffering becomes beautiful when anyone bears great Calamities with cheerfulness, not through insensibility but through greatness of mind.
Aristotle
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17 Feb 10, 1:12 PM
merrynb99
UK(SL), 6 yrs
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Adverse_Camber wrote:
As one without a dick, morals, or religion, I feel I am emminently qualified to comment on this post.
What you should do, without a doubt, is show her this thread and let her read it in its entirety.
That should solve...well...everything really!
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PMSL! Coffee on screen! sputter!
Talk about an "Outside the Box" solution!!!!
A little bad taste is like a nice dash of paprika (D. Parker)
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17 Feb 10, 1:14 PM
Adverse_Camber
UK, 3 yrs
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merrynb99 wrote:
Adverse_Camber wrote:
As one without a dick, morals, or religion, I feel I am emminently qualified to comment on this post.
What you should do, without a doubt, is show her this thread and let her read it in its entirety.
That should solve...well...everything really!
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PMSL! Coffee on screen! sputter!
Talk about an "Outside the Box" solution!!!!
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Hehehe...gonna try it then???  x
"I see the shooting stars falling through your trembling hands..."
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17 Feb 10, 1:27 PM
Unschuldiger_Teufel
UK(ST), 3 yrs
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Dick_Velvet wrote:
screwing the crew, would you
So I have a situation at home base. I live with three chicks. The delicious (take my word for it!!!) Merrynb, a German chick and a spanish chic.
My german flatmate, who I have been on very good terms with in a brother sister way has a crush on me apparently. I had not noticed this until lately. It was rather apparent on saturday when Merryn, her and I were all together playing board games with visitors. And she has given me the odd quick hug, but I get that from lots of women.
Last night there was a big scene including expletives delivered at high speed and high volume. It was supposedly about the noise levels in the house, which are not excessive.
But looking back this morning, I remember she came in and watched me for five to ten minutes while I was playing XBOX earlier last night, i think the outburst is more from self inflicted frustration and that she wants some hot hard housemate action. I wonder if she thinks of me when she indulges in guilty masturbation, and does she pray afterward. She has seen me dressed for play club nights and she is quite aware of what I am and has a fair Idea of what i like and what I may do to her, and there she is flirting with danger fluttering ever closser to the flame.
She is quite attractive although not my type - too nervous. But, all the same, being a red blooded male and up for it (as I jolly well ought to be), there is a temtation to pluck that fruit.
Now to complicate things more, she is a born again new life christian, and giving in to temptation, blah blah sin, blah blah burn in hell. Here is the kicker. I can fuck her, but it will be fornication for her and she will require punishment. It will be non consensual on a cerebral level for her but there will be that visceral need to appease her submissive christian nature.
So I am drawn to this damaged and flutering moth as any predator would be. At the same time I know there will be blood, and do I want that on my concience.
The saying is 'never screw the crew', isn't it. I asked myself, why can it never be easy, but I like a bit of pain and I like the jagged edges. But do i really want all that at home, not really. Would you, wouldn't you?
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Did someone tell you she had a crush on you, or did you assume it because she watched you playing X-box? If so, I wouldn't take that as red that she likes you, she may just have been interested in the game.
Also, if she's "not your type" why are you asking this? If you're not attracted to her then don't do anything, if you are, then what does it matter whether or not she fits the type you've previously gone for?
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i think the outburst is more from self inflicted frustration and that she wants some hot hard housemate action. I wonder if she thinks of me when she indulges in guilty masturbation, and does she pray afterward.
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To be honest I think you're thinking more about the fantasy of her than the reality, and possible outcomes afterwards. If she doesn't have a crush on you and you make a move, you could potentially ruin a friendship and lose a housemate. If, as you say, she does have a crush on you and you go for it, there are a few possible outcomes: - you both have some short-lived gratification, and never speak of it again
- things become awkward and eventually lead to the destruction of your friendship
- she does have guilt issues, is unable to forgive herself for it and has lasting issues about sex, men etc
- she rejects you
Of course there are other possibilities, and there's always the possibility that you discover she is your type, and things move on from there.
However, I'd find out for certain whether she does have a crush on you before doing anything, it could be that you've imagined it! If she does, do you really want to risk ruining your friendship and be left potetially one housemate shorter? Please sponsor me to cycle across India! I will give you a virtual chocolate cake! Go on, you know you want to...
http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/256240/
http://tiny.cc/pOFUm
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17 Feb 10, 2:03 PM
The_Vicar
UK(CF), 6 yrs
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Probably best to stick to the XBOX.
In my experience, 'there's no such thing as a free fuck' and, ethics aside, the potential cost of this one is huge.
John the Vicar
Edited 17 Feb 10, 2:09 PM by The_Vicar
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17 Feb 10, 2:37 PM
nurse_blade
UK, 2 yrs |
I'd fuck her if I were you. I don't see why so many people are trying to protect her. She's a grown up, she can make grown up decisions and if she makes a wrong one she can learn from it.
I had to fuck at least 50 dud men before finding a decent one. But I wouldn't change any of my experiences. I learnt from each encounter and came out of them stronger and more sorted. You don't learn from life unless you experience it. So fuck the bird and teach her a lesson. |
17 Feb 10, 2:42 PM
Miss_Despotic
UK(M), 5 yrs
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nurse_blade wrote:
So fuck the bird and teach her a lesson.
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This, this right here, is why you've been missed Ultraviolence
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