Bottoming... (20)

yeah this.

if you're actually serious about thinking abotu bottoming, you could always start off slow, maybe get one of your subs to give you a spanking, so you're still in control, but know what your egetting in for, and if you're not completely put off, you probably have a couple of male friends that are dom who would be able to ease you in gently.

Bottoming is lovely, the thrill you get when you give control to someone, knowing they can do anything to you but trusting them to hold back (but not to much!) is a pretty addictive rush!

Special Ed *WARNING do not click if you cannot take a joke or are too sensitive*
"These are the Phenomena that every pretty Domina is hoping at her Universitee we shall see"- W.S Gilbert

The only time it worked was when I was physically sparring with the other person throughout the whole thing and it was entirely down to chemistry with the other. Neither one of us stopped until we were too exhausted to continue. Not quite bottoming I admit.

Psychologically, I know 100% I couldn't do it now. I might think about it and grin, but it just doesn't work.

Part of me too feels a tad jealous of subs who can let themselves go, something I can't do, even to the extent of finding the holding back exciting in itself.

Perverted Pederast Puppetmistress Pimp Pandering to the Patriarchy... apparently

I am serious (as in, curious and proactive) about exploring my sexuality to whatever ends it could take me. That's why I won't say no to something on the grounds that "I'm a top, I'm a bottom", or because after trying it, it didn't work. I'll say no to something if it doesn't seem to appeal or stir my curiosity.

The way you worded your reply, you made it sound as if, if you try something enough times, you'll like it in the end. I don't agree with that view: we all know when something feels contrived. Sexuality imo is not a question of habit or of finding the right person, it's much trickier than that.

As a Domme, I've dommed the wrong person countless times; had indifferent partners; had many "meh" sessions... and yet, nothing of that has ever made me dislike domming, nor made me lose my interest in it, or doubt myself as a Domme, because even the poorer experiences give me some degree of sexual expression and satisfaction.

I am surprised at my conclusions, because I was expecting, or maybe hoping, to be more fluid in my tastes, but hey-ho... as the old saying goes... if it ain't feel sexy, it ain't worth it.

"People are inherently evil, but very, very funny" - Joe Orton.

Edited 16 Feb 10, 9:55 AM by Ms_Tytania

Hah I remember the first time I met you. You said "I'm a switch" and about four other dommes all shushed you .

I've become less and less able to bottom as times gone by, now I think it's a huge trust thing.

Theodore Bikel: "All too often arrogance accompanies strength, and we must never assume that justice is on the side of the strong. The use of power must always be accompanied by moral choice."

The urges are there, the practicality and reality aren't conducive to realisation.

Perverted Pederast Puppetmistress Pimp Pandering to the Patriarchy... apparently

Sorry, but do you call that serious? It may be just me, but I think if someone wants to bottom, it should be to a top, not to a simulacrum of it. Also, the one major appeal of bottoming, for me at least, is the "letting go" and "losing control" element: I mentioned that in my OP. Pain and physical sensations just hurt and bother me. My triggers are all in my head, not in implements out there.

I've only bottomed to people who, in my eyes, are Tops or Doms. Not just any old dick and harry who calls himself a Dom/me (I could call myself Empress of the whole Universe for all that matters, it's just words): people whose dominance I don't doubt for a second.

For me, it's not a series of activities, roles, names... it's something that comes from within, that's why I feel that it has to trigger something from within. I don't think the reply is "out there", but "in here". Not sure I'm expressing myself well.

"People are inherently evil, but very, very funny" - Joe Orton.

Edited 16 Feb 10, 10:36 AM by Ms_Tytania

People are just not made for some things. If you want an out of this world experience why not go for sex in space

'Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather' - Velvet Underground

hah I live with one of those, intelelctually she wants to be but she can't break her cock addiction

People are just wired differently; if you meet somomeone (who meets the right person criteria) then I think the delineation becomes less rigid (even to a 99:1 ratio) but depends on the right person's wiring as well.

I'm always fascinated with dom/domme relationships and their interaction and I quizz them to distraction given the right environment.

Here's hoping everyone finds what they are looking for

Edited 16 Feb 10, 11:39 AM by Mr_Worm