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| 14 Feb 10, 4:06 PM jules9 UK(CH), 3 yrs     |
LOL
Don't get me wrong, once a day is fine. My ex used to be a complete git (in a nice way) and made me wait for the weekend XxX | |
| 14 Feb 10, 4:12 PM just_m UK(BS), 5 yrs  |
I found that it can depend on age as well.
Isn't there something that says that men are in their sexual prime at 18 and women in their early thirties?
And honestly, often sex drive doesn't depend on gender or age but merely the partner they are with (does s/he make you feel sexy, does s/he understand your needs, etc)  m. "(Women) are not just there to be admired, they are there to be enjoyed."--Ellen Von Unwerth Edited 14 Feb 10, 4:13 PM by just_m | |
| 14 Feb 10, 4:20 PM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs |
The whole of the Stella (Sunday Tel) magazine is about sex today and one part is a survey. It does reflect what you do see - more men in long marriages wanting more sex than their wives. Of course it can be an issue the other way round and may be when we get to a postion where men do as much as women domestically things will even out. I'm sure the fact I was putting on sexy suits and high heels weeks after I had all my babies and going to work full time helped make me feel like a sexual person again compared with if I'd been home 24/7 in tracksuit bottoms scrubbing floors and ironing shirts and holding crying babies. | |
| 14 Feb 10, 5:34 PM fitzcaraldo UK(BA), 6 yrs |
*smiles* Yes, I read STELLA today too and thought a lot of it was what is loosely described as "A crock of shite" ! The loss of sex drive thing in women corresponds to that in men becoming fat and lazy rather then being overstressed with 'multitasking'. Sex has to have undivided attention for best results, regardless of sex drive. I think there are probably a lot of women who just aren't into sex , full stop, as there are men who just aren't into women / sex similarly. Conversely I was chatting to a woman aged only 20 recently and she told me she had been dumped by more than one boyfriend for having too high a sex drive ! Another amusing item in the same mag' was the article by a rather repressed older woman trying to recover an interest in sex, but who was really quite sniffy about Anne Summers , sex aids etc, and wouldn't countenance the idea of something so left field as B & D ! I'm inclined to think some situations are created when sex is actually undiscovered territory, - a subject covered by a post the other day. After all, if you don't know what you're missing, you aren't likely to get very wound up about it ! Escaped from the parallel universe | |
| 14 Feb 10, 5:36 PM fitzcaraldo UK(BA), 6 yrs |
PS. also This ! Fitz.
Escaped from the parallel universe | |
| 14 Feb 10, 5:54 PM BarbieSlutLoki UK(E), 6 yrs |
The other thing is sometimes you'd rather be celibate than just sleep with anyone, I just wouldn't enjoy a one night unless I had some sort of connection with them I couldn't just enjoy sex for its own sake (:
The first rule of Brat Club, we don't talk about Brat Club... | |
| 14 Feb 10, 6:11 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs      |
She'd be in big trouble if she was multitasking whilst on the job. I'm not claiming that I can be THAT distracting, but it is key to the dynamic that she knows when to be an intelligent hole - and to focus on it. Patience is bitter - but its fruit is sweet. | |
| 14 Feb 10, 6:12 PM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs |
It's just light Sunday reading. Some of it is good fun and some is right and some is wrong. The one below - http://www.telegraph.co.uk/relationships/valenti... is very common. Plenty of women feel like that. And the lottery of marriage is sometimes you end up with someone like that when you're young (and it can apply the other way round too but more usually that way). I wonder if her husband is as uninterested. Are you saying women lose their sex drive in marriage when their man gets fat and lazy? I think it's more complicated than that although that doesn't help. I've never been in a relationship anyway where I didn't give continuous consent to sex because I'm submissive so it would never not be available but obviously that's not typical for most marriages.
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| 14 Feb 10, 6:22 PM bondagenotts2 UK(NG), 3 yrs |
Thats a wonderful comment. Must remember it when female colleagues say men cant multi-task | |
| 14 Feb 10, 6:50 PM wetpad1 UK(SN), 4 yrs |
Ouchhhhhhhhhhh, a bit below the belt? |
. All I am trying to say is its been my personal experience, that particularly at the start of a relationship, the woman has the higher sex drive. 