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| 13 Feb 10, 10:14 PM Painpet UK(CB), 3 yrs  |
Yes I do, It's a case of you don't know what your going to get the snap the crackle or the pop, that's life, unpredictable and that's what I like
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| 13 Feb 10, 10:33 PM PrinceCaspian UK(SE), 6 yrs  |
I suppose it would. eugh I feel bad now for being smug.
Theodore Bikel: "All too often arrogance accompanies strength, and we must never assume that justice is on the side of the strong. The use of power must always be accompanied by moral choice." Edited 13 Feb 10, 10:54 PM by PrinceCaspian | ||
| 13 Feb 10, 10:37 PM Cassius UK, 3 yrs |
I do think that we tend to be attracted initially to specifically personally appealing physical types in general.....which tends to be confirmed as we would generally therefore, given a choice, approach Type A rather than Type ZZZ. However,I have found as I get older that it is what is in their head that is most important. You could have a "perfectly physically beautiful" type who had the emotions, imagination and free-spiritedness of a duck, and at the other end of the spectrum a mouse in appearance but the most incredible partner in other ways. So.....don't judge a book by its cover..... Practise senseless acts of beauty. Edited 14 Feb 10, 1:30 AM by Cassius | ||
| 13 Feb 10, 10:43 PM Hislilpuppy 9 yrs |
I have always said ... You will find it difficult to find flawless diamonds .. It is the flaws in a diamond that makes each one unique and different .. I found it emotionally draining searching for someone online However I was scrolling through these very web boards one day ...when i saw a male who caught my eye and think out of dynamic of sub / Dom..." oooh yum he is hot!", i perved his profile out of curiosity because his comment on a board made me giggle. I perked when i saw he was young, perked at him being in Manchester and pounced when i read he was funny and a DOM !! .. Although the months of failed nightmares of online searching was a drain ... I met this funny Dom..and we have been together for nearly year and still at it like rabbits ... Depression was exactly how i felt ...but i feel lifted now...maybe you have to experience the lows to appreciate the highs.... submission is permission to be yourself without judgment | ||
| 13 Feb 10, 10:49 PM Stillyet UK(DG), 2 yrs |
No. There's no such thing as a perfect person. Mr (or Miss) Right is not out there. Do not be despondent, however - there are several thousand Mr (or Miss) Nearly Rights out there, and once you get over demanding perfection, you'll see them. However, something I've learned over the years is that being desperate for a relationship is not a good way to find one. Desperation is unattractive. When you get to a space in your head where you're happy being alone, someone Nearly Right will leap on you. ;; Semper in faecibus sumus, sole profundam variat | ||
| 13 Feb 10, 10:53 PM TheVoid UK(RG), 5 yrs |
Perfection as such I believe it is impossible, I found 99.9% once, but alas it was never meant to be. Not finding it? No it doesn't depress me, I have made some fantastic friends whilst looking, and i know I myself am not perfect (though I won't admit it), I'm looking for the right sub, not the perfect sub. After all surely perfection means they wouldn't ever do anything wrong... and where's the fun in that? | ||
| 13 Feb 10, 11:00 PM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs |
Very true and I was never as lonely as in my unhappy marriage. If someone thinks they need a partner to fix them then you're better off steering clear of that person. On the other hand most people seem to be happier with a partner /spouse they love who loves them than without one (although studies do show that married men are the happiest category of men and single women of categories of women and also studies of mental health show the same thing so goodness knows why women don't clamour more to remain single or perhaps they do increasingly).
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| 14 Feb 10, 12:57 AM subprincess UK(YO), 4 yrs |
C'est la vie! | ||
| 14 Feb 10, 1:22 AM WideEyedMinx UK(N), 2 yrs |
No absolutely, it doesn't depress me, but what does depress me is the idea is that i shouldn't strive for the perfect ideal .. I don't care how long it takes to find the ying for my yang, the right for my left, one day it will be right, and that's what will make the search less of an oddysey and a beautiful moment in time. Why should i compromise in the search for something which works ??? .. compromise is crap, strive for the zenith and avoid the nadir ... x It's a beautiful world, just enjoy it. | ||
| 14 Feb 10, 1:42 AM KinkyRoly UK(OX), 3 yrs |
I very much doubt that I have the perfect sub and I know for a fact that I'm not the perfect Dom either. However, I do know that she's the right woman for me. |
