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| Wed 10 Feb 10, 11:02 AM Thistle US, 4 yrs  |
What does it mean when a dominant claims that a submissive is under his/her protection? Protection against what? I ask because, though I've seen it written over and again on profiles, etc., I've always thought it seemed somewhat condescending. I just wonder what I'm not "getting" and what it means to other people? love the brave but avoid cowards, knowing the gratitude of cowards is small ~Praxilla of Sicyon | ||
| 10 Feb 10, 11:46 AM Manteau UK(S), 2 yrs  |
In a day to day scenario I think it's probably symbolic. Certainly herself needs no protection from me when she's at work! She can reduce the most 'hard' man to salt with a well aimed, polite but firm put down! The usual not necessarilly D/s questions/advice things that couples engage in isn't 'protection', it's just normal communication. I think it's possibly more to do with a scene environment where in the times of her/his most helpless, the trust of the Dom/Domme by the sub is absolute; knowing he/she will not come to harm nor allow anyone else to harm them.. Only my take on it. Suffering becomes beautiful when anyone bears great Calamities with cheerfulness, not through insensibility but through greatness of mind.
Aristotle | ||
| 10 Feb 10, 11:49 AM Barbahella UK(W), 8 yrs |
To be honest, it's a nice big slice of fet-scene pretentious clap-trap. London Fetish Studio | ||
| 10 Feb 10, 12:10 PM Onememo 2 yrs |
Exactly, although it's one of the worst pieces of it on moral grounds.
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| 10 Feb 10, 12:12 PM Thistle US, 4 yrs |
That's pretty much my impression of it too, but so many people say it, that I just wanted to try to better understand.
love the brave but avoid cowards, knowing the gratitude of cowards is small ~Praxilla of Sicyon | ||
| 10 Feb 10, 12:27 PM bohnanza UK(FK), 12 yrs |
In some cases it means: "I am insecure, so please don't make me feel any worse by contacting a woman I vaguely know, but being BDSM we have a deep and meaningful relationship which will last for ever and this collar isn't made of Velcro, it is made of a material which looks and feels like Velcro but is made by someone else." Why don't Mecca Bingo Halls face east? | ||
| 10 Feb 10, 12:47 PM SimpleSoul UK, 6 yrs |
Ignoring the clap-trap element for a moment (let's not be so judgemental ALL the time people). My take on the phrase in question is that it means that a D and s are involved to a certain level but are not yet in a full blown D/s relationship. To a degree it is perhaps similar to the 'under consideration' phrase. I have also seen it used where the D acts as mentor to the s and/or stands as 'guardian' to the s. For example when the s has lost his/her own relationship with their previous D and the D (perhaps as a close friend) takes the s under his/her wing.....as I say acting in the role of guardian. This can be useful for the s in fending of unwelcome attentions as he/she can refer them to the guardian D. It can also help the s deal with their loss and to not feel totally out of control (if they are that way inclined) by having someone provide a little structure and support at a difficult time. In any case, provided the s agrees that they are 'under the protection' of course, it implies to me that the s has someone looking out for her/him and may well not be 'available'. That's my take on it, for what it's worth. | ||
| 10 Feb 10, 12:58 PM Onememo 2 yrs |
Do whatever turns you on, write about it, whatever, but don't expect immunity from ridicule. This applies particularly to those who try to make it into a 'scene code' or similar bullshit. | ||
| 10 Feb 10, 12:59 PM Janie_0 UK(G), 8 yrs |
I always thought it meant, " i want a shag without the commitment" Back to BDSM School for me then. | ||
| 10 Feb 10, 1:05 PM lima_pink_tigress 3 yrs |
YKIOK???
In order to know virtue, we must first aquaint ourselves with vice - Marquis De Sade | ||
| 10 Feb 10, 1:14 PM MissP UK(EN), 8 yrs |
And mostly online! Would anybody go into a pub and introduce themselves as "Sue, under the protection of Master Uberbollix"?? |
