Can BDSM make you stronger? (2)

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Posted by ALittleBizarre on Tue 9 Feb 10, 2:52 PM

Perhaps not the #1 recommended therapy of the World Psychiatric Association, but I do feel there is some merit in learning how to cope with pain, recover, and find comfort at the end of it all.

It helps to know he'll always be there to hold me at the end of it, he's demonstrated that much to me through countless BDSM exercises. And when it came down to the real thing, the real life altering torment, it felt less scary because of this.

And maybe from his point of view practicing that he has to be strong for my sake has done him some good too. He seemed to know just when to pick up the reins and direct my attentions elsewhere and when to just let me grieve.

Maybe I'm not just stronger and happier now as a person, maybe we're stronger and happier as a couple. I don't know, just a theory. Seems to have done us some good though.

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9 Feb 10, 3:06 PM
woewoe
UK(BH), 4 mths
It can. It's not the 'pain management', but the dealing with this kind of strong emotions and the power exchange. You step into a different world, which provides you with extra power for the daily run-in-the-mill. For me/us BDSM is like a daily power source.
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9 Feb 10, 5:20 PM
fireflame
UK(SS), 3 yrs
I often referred to a heavy play session, or thrashing, as a reboot. When things drag me down and I feel I can't cope with life's stresses, a good thrashing took me to a high that lasted several days, whereby I experienced clarity of thought and this sudden burst of enthusiasm and energy. It's such an intense experience to go through that I feel empowered, like, if I can handle that, I can handle anything...
In an ideal world, I'd want a weekly thrashing, to keep me focused and grounded. A reboot...it wakes me up
Too many rely on pills etc for that 'lift', but all they do is mask emotions, not deal with them. Being forced to cry is very cathartic...and cleansing.


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