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| Mon 8 Feb 10, 8:57 PM Adwhored UK(BN), 10 yrs   |
How long in your ds relationship has that spark, lust, new energy lasted? Do you feel that a ds relationship can maintain it for longer or is it just the same as in a vanilla relationship? I sometimes feel the power relationship adds time to that initial spark, what about you? If it goes or when it goes, what do you do to re fuel it? How do you keep it alive? For some if their Dominant/submissive (choose a title yourself) develops a relationship with another person, their own relationship can benefit from the energy it enfuses the person with, would that work for you? Debs x "Woman in her greatest perfection was made to serve and obey man." John Knox | ||
| 8 Feb 10, 10:16 PM saltireblue UK(KA), 2 yrs |
Relationships are dependent on the chemistry between couples. If the proper buttons are pressed then the lust/energy may last quite some time. I am sure that some D/s couples will still have that lust after a few years together. Then again the spark may very well last for just as long in some vanilla relationships. However, in my case it has certainly lasted much longer with my D/s relationships | ||
| 9 Feb 10, 12:03 AM Visualize 4 yrs £ |
Why would it need re fueling? Can't it just run its glorious course, and if you are lucky it lasts your whole life, but if not you can let it go without regret and enjoy the memories and what you have learned and let it rest in friendship and the delicious degree of intimacy that you would never have from a platonic relationship? The past is history, tomorrow is a mystery, the present is a gift. | ||
| 9 Feb 10, 12:41 AM passion8 UK(SW), 3 yrs  |
What a nice way of looking at things. Well said x This is not just any scene, This is an S&M scene xx | ||
| 9 Feb 10, 1:29 AM KinkyRoly UK(OX), 3 yrs |
The initial spark gets replaced by a much hotter flame that burns brighter. As you get to know someone better, your love for them grows and the initial passion develops into something more complete. If you do it right, it doesn't need to be refuelled, it develops a momentum of it's own. | ||
| 9 Feb 10, 10:08 AM T5Tart UK(MK), 5 yrs |
it lasts as long as it lasts
the worst feeling in the world though is when something happens to end the relationship while its still in full flame
"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." ~Marilyn Monroe. | ||
| 9 Feb 10, 10:22 AM TheVoid UK(RG), 4 yrs |
So very true for something to be cut down in it's prime with no second thought. | ||
| 9 Feb 10, 10:30 AM T5Tart UK(MK), 5 yrs |
I think there is always a second thought even if they dont show it its sad they feel they cant or wont show it though
"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." ~Marilyn Monroe. | ||
| 9 Feb 10, 6:13 PM Red_Spark UK(LE), 5 yrs |
things can't stay *the same*... ... no reason why they can't be *as good* though...
"Be quiet and come with me. I won't betray you." |
