Cravings and violence (17)

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mia
Posted by mia on Mon 8 Feb 10, 6:29 PM

Do you ever worry that the more violence you taste, the more you crave? Do you worry that one day, that punch to your [insert something soft and hurtable, or hard and hurtable] will just not do it for you?

As a dom, do you worry that the more hurt you give, you have a need to always go one better? As a sub, do you worry that one day you're not going to get your masochistic itches scratched by your dom, unless you're pushing them to go further and further?

This is a post asking for insights and not one in which i've already made up my mind, or one that i'm asking in order to judge or condemn.

I love a bit of unbareable pain, but even a short sharp sting of a slap on the arse still manages to make me gasp and i still enjoy it. I do worry though that the more extreme stuff i enjoy might mean that one day i stop getting any masochistic pleasure from the softer side of pain.

How does it work for you? Do you 'do' both? Or just stick to major 'ow'?

mia, x

Edited Tue 9 Feb 10, 8:35 PM by mia

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8 Feb 10, 9:33 PM
mia
UK(LS), 2 yrs

PiercedKnight wrote:
* I'm KIDDING!

mia, x
"Passion should believe itself irresistible. It should forget civility and consideration and all the other curses of a refined nature. Above all, it should never ask for leave where there is a right of way." @Manchester

8 Feb 10, 9:47 PM
viragoangel
UK, 3 yrs
mia wrote:
Do you ever worry that the more violence you taste, the more you crave? Do you worry that one day, that punch to your [insert something soft and hurtable, or hard and hurtable] will just not do it for you?
How does it work for you? Do you 'do' both? Or just stick to major 'ow'?
mia, x
Good question. Will need to think about this as sometimes i can be quite self destructive and with the right person/circumstances i may be inclined to push them/me beyond what is resonable. May come back to this after a good nights sleep(babies permitting)as the idea that i would actually crave more aggression on a daily basis, is quite disconcerting.
I like a relationship that balances hard/soft as it keeps me on my toes mentally but as a masochist if i HAD to choose one i'd have to vote to go hard.
jules.x

8 Feb 10, 9:48 PM
Miss_Despotic
UK(M), 2 yrs

mia wrote:
As a sub, do you worry that one day you're not going to get your masochistic itches scratched by your dom, unless you're pushing them to go further and further?

Yes. This
Ultraviolence

8 Feb 10, 9:54 PM
mia
UK(LS), 2 yrs

Miss_Despotic wrote:

mia wrote:
As a sub, do you worry that one day you're not going to get your masochistic itches scratched by your dom, unless you're pushing them to go further and further?

Yes. This
Luckily, you know me. If he gets tired with you, i could hit you over the head with a cake tin repeatedly. That, my lovely, is a promise.
mia, x
"Passion should believe itself irresistible. It should forget civility and consideration and all the other curses of a refined nature. Above all, it should never ask for leave where there is a right of way." @Manchester

8 Feb 10, 10:40 PM
Elegantly_Wasted
UK(SG), 5 yrs
I'm a bit of an adrenaline junkie so I do find myself craving more and more extreme to get the same high. That said, before meeting 'The Tall One' I hadn't properly subbed in *ages* so even a hair pull and a look is enough to make my pants explode at the moment.
I do think the adrenaline high is quite addictive and that addiction for me anyway, is part of what drives the more extreme sides of my play. Or at least I think that's what it is...!
"Put your Ego's down - I've told you before not to play with them...."

8 Feb 10, 11:36 PM
hinoeuma
UK, 3 yrs

mia wrote:
How does it work for you? Do you 'do' both? Or just stick to major 'ow'?

I was in a relationship a few years ago where i did seriously worry about how far we would go... fortunately it ended before it got to the point of being damagingly destructive.... he ws in to cutting in a big way and there wasnt a time that my body wasnt covered in cuts
The person that i see now for my s&m play is also quite extreme, but he's very experienced and seems to vary the intensity of the play every time that we meet. Ive been seeing him almost two years now and i think that we have developed a really good connection with each other over this time so not only do i get a buzz when he pushes me past what could be considered sane, but he also can have that same effect on me even if its just something very subtle... hes mostly fucking around in my head and i think when that is adequately acheived they can keep you dangeling on tenter hooks for as long as they like and physically not do anything and you would find it mind blowing... or maybe thats just me being very receptive to him
~* Raku wa ku no tan�; ku wa raku no tan�. *~

9 Feb 10, 1:55 PM
sub_serena
UK, 23 mths
This is going to sound crazy, but I don't know if I have endured .. real psyical pain.. told you it sounded silly! It is just so subjective, I love the cane and all things CP.. I have been caned so hard I bleed and scream , in equal ammounts . However that to me is pleasurable.. I have read alot of posts recently on punching, kicking, broken bones.. to me that sounds far more like a masochistic punishment .. or is it that it is purley subjective?? I have never been punched or kicked .. it just hasn't been part of the D/s dynamic that my wonderful relationship is .. I'm going to ponder.
owned , happy and contented.x

9 Feb 10, 3:03 PM
chelsea
UK, 3 yrs

mia wrote:
Do you ever worry that the more violence you taste, the more you crave? Do you worry that one day, that punch to your [insert something soft and hurtable, or hard and hurtable] will just not do it for you?
As a sub, do you worry that one day you're not going to get your masochistic itches scratched by your dom, unless you're pushing them to go further and further?
How does it work for you? Do you 'do' both? Or just stick to major 'ow'?
mia, x
Dear mia,
Hi, hoping you are well and having a good day...
The issue is not about soft and hurtable, or hard and hurtable, but about the intensity of it all.
Just day to day stuff is fine, but heck, can certainly leave a girl 'needing'... when it all comes down to just one thing, it's the intensity of the scenario, implement, pain, that sates or leaves one cold.
Often there is a wonder (and slight concern) how it would (or will) be possible to keep such an intensity going over time; or even if it would be desired by the dominant...
Have a beautiful day

Love and peace.
Namaste
chelsea

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