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| 8 Feb 10, 2:01 PM MissP UK(EN), 8 yrs  |
This bit made me laugh. I've never felt I needed a reference to go anywhere, and no need to prove myself to be interesting or costumey. Your assumption that over 35s would need references reflect poorly on how the event has been marketed and what a presumtuous bunch you are! But it's always good to see new events, even if you are actively discouraged from attending them, so good luck with it. | |||
| 8 Feb 10, 2:07 PM Ms_Tytania 6 yrs |
What bothers me is the assumption that being u-35 makes you instantly sexy, fabulous and hawt. If only! May I draw the OP's attention to the un-sexy, un-hot and un-fabulous among the u-35? I mean, are you going to let all the spotty, unimaginative fuglies in just because they are u-35? As an admirer and connoisseur of younger things, I can confidently say that there are lots of not-at-all-sexy young'uns around and I don't welcome them instantly just because they happen to be younger. In fact, I think they are the worst: it's not easy to stay sexy and hot as young get older, but having time on your side and still, being hopeless is a very, very bad sign... Why don't you make it a party for fabulous sexy people, and vetto them individually, using your own judgement, not age? "People are inherently evil, but very, very funny" - Joe Orton. Edited 8 Feb 10, 2:17 PM by Ms_Tytania | |||
| 8 Feb 10, 2:15 PM Purrverse US, 6 yrs |
Ok, this is fair in a way- I copy and pasted what we had on the site and we've changed it to better and more tactfully reflect what we're trying for. It now reads "We're mostly made up of people under 35, though we also admit over 35s who fulfil our ArSe (Arty and Sexy) requirements. This translates as people who are interesting, creative, have a playful sense of style and who come with a recommendation from someone within the Kinky Salon crowd.. Aside from that any gender or sexuality is welcome." To clarify further- the references thing applies for EVERYONE. It'll be run as a private party, therefore, we want to create a sense of intimacy by having it be mostly friends and friends of friends. However, and I will stick by this- YES, being interesting and costumey/artistic/creative in how you dress is important for this party. Might not be something you enjoy, and that's fine. But I have definitely found that costumes are a method that encourages people to talk to each other and gives them a way to begin that conversation, along with helping prevent some people feeling like they're fabulous and in on a theme and others feeling left out. Costumes can and often do create a dialogue that prevents people coming to a party just so they can hang out with their friends and not chat to anyone else. "I can't tell if you're playing some kind of feminazi mind fuck game on me or if you're trying to seduce me." -Sex and Death 101 | |||
| 8 Feb 10, 2:20 PM Doghouse_Reilly UK(MK), 6 yrs  |
I love the idea of discriminating against the over 35s. For about three more years. Then it will be, as the great mechanical man once said, 'The worst kind of discrimination, the kind that affects me'. Until then though fuck the old, though not literally, as they may have heart attacks. “Some people never go crazy, What truly horrible lives they must live” | |||
| 8 Feb 10, 2:20 PM Purrverse US, 6 yrs |
Exactly. That's why we're trying to use a FB site, so we can vet them individually. We've been chit chatting about this collectively and I recognize the phrasing of this in the OP was poorly worded- however, rather than edit it and thus changing the relevance of some of the things written about that wording, I'm leaving it. "I can't tell if you're playing some kind of feminazi mind fuck game on me or if you're trying to seduce me." -Sex and Death 101 | |||
| 8 Feb 10, 2:22 PM MissP UK(EN), 8 yrs |
I have more costumes that you could possible shake a stick at, and don't need references to prove it. Ask anyone
TBH, if that's the reason for the costuming, the attendees aren't *that* interesting in the first place are they?? Us over 35s know how to make conversation without having to dress up first. Although of course, many of us can, and do, do both. In all honestly, your first event sounds too schooly for for me, I'm not a huge fan of age-play type/theme events, and wouldn't find them kinky, sexy or arty, so regardless of your ageism, I wouldn't go. But I still do hope it goes well for you!
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| 8 Feb 10, 2:23 PM Purrverse US, 6 yrs |
I look forward to our Science Friction theme so people can flaunt their black palm flowers. "I can't tell if you're playing some kind of feminazi mind fuck game on me or if you're trying to seduce me." -Sex and Death 101 | |||
| 8 Feb 10, 2:31 PM Purrverse US, 6 yrs |
Actually, that's been one of the things I've hated about parties here. Some munches, as well. I've found that you go to them with your friends, talk to your friends, and leave with your friends. When I came into this scene here two years ago I felt completely isolated, because it was next to impossible to start conversations with anyone new except for online. Thankfully, the under 35 munch wasn't like that, so I made friends there. ::shrug:: YMMV. "I can't tell if you're playing some kind of feminazi mind fuck game on me or if you're trying to seduce me." -Sex and Death 101 | |||
| 8 Feb 10, 2:37 PM Doghouse_Reilly UK(MK), 6 yrs |
See that Logan's Run thing won't fly for me. I'm built for comfort not speed. It'd be sort of a Logan Tries To Look Innocent Ambling To A Suitable Hiding Place. You could have a special Soylent Green theme for the proper oldies too. Soft music, relaxing visuals, sneaky people with hammers, you don't want to stress them out, ruins the flavour. “Some people never go crazy, What truly horrible lives they must live” | |||
| 8 Feb 10, 2:38 PM Purrverse US, 6 yrs |
Well, depends on the fear- sudden fear is delicious, slow, creeping dread is sort of bitter, I find... "I can't tell if you're playing some kind of feminazi mind fuck game on me or if you're trying to seduce me." -Sex and Death 101 |
