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Respect (54)

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10 Feb 10, 8:54 AM
Teacher1357
UK(LS), 2 yrs

I think this respondent sums it up perfectly. Of course a Dom respects a sub. There could be no relationship without mutual respect.

penwiggle wrote:

NightFox wrote:
Respect

Can Doms/Dommes actually have any respect for subs ? They can be manipulated, abused, disciplined, ignored etc. So is it possible that they can be respected ?

In my opinion, what you are describing is a doormat, not a sub.

As a sub, if a Dom/me doesn't respect me then I won't go near them with a barge pole.

What I'm giving them is a great gift. My trust, my body, my emotions, my well being, my safety, etc. etc.

I wouldn't say I can be manipulated - I suppose in the looses sense of the word, yes. Although I would probably go more with the word controlled. Manipulation, to me, brings a sense of underhandedness, and that is not showing respect. If a Dom has to resort to manipulation, then they are not in control.

I might be hit, controlled, disciplined, hurt; I might even have used the phrase 'used and abused' from time to time. But I don't see it as being 'abused' as in the vanilla sense of the word. If a relationship with a Dom became abusive, and I didn't feel I was respected, I'd end the relationship.

Just because I am in a submissive role, and they are in a Dom/controlling role, doesn't mean either of us can disregard respecting the other. Respect isn't about power exchange.

Pen

10 Feb 10, 9:44 AM
sirguym
UK(HR), 6 yrs

NightFox wrote:
Respect

Can Doms/Dommes actually have any respect for subs ? They can be manipulated, abused, disciplined, ignored etc. So is it possible that they can be respected ?

I won't ever do anything with someone I don't respect.

I may do all kinds of painful, humiliating, or whatever things to them; use them as ponies or puppies for instance.

But if I don't have respect for them, I may as well play with a blow-up doll, there's just nothing there for me.

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10 Feb 10, 9:55 AM
Ms_Valentine
UK, 3 yrs

NightFox wrote:
Respect

Can Doms/Dommes actually have any respect for subs ? They can be manipulated, abused, disciplined, ignored etc. So is it possible that they can be respected ?

Yes, they can be respected.

Simply put, if I have no respect for the man I live with and love, then I have no respect for myself either.

I respect him through my love for him and through his position as my sub. He has brought things to our relationship which are worthy of my respect and I make sure he knows this.

I respect him because he is the one sub who has come closest to giving me everything I could possibly want in both D/s and non kinky areas of our life. To find someone so compatible and downright wonderful and want to be with hem forever, to my way of thinking at least, signifies I have respect for them.

24/7 subs and slaves can and do live similar lives, it is only the concept of 'ownership' which separates them.

19 Feb 10, 1:31 PM
Pyros1
UK, 6 yrs

Personally i have a great deal of respect for any girl i've looked after after all she has the strength and courage to give herself to me, to fall and let me catch her.

I'm not a pro dom I couldn't ever Dom anyone I didn't care for or respect.