Enquiry ends in disappointment (96)

I'm not Delphian, and I can prove it. Just ask me a question that only Delphian would know the answer to. When I can't answer it you'll know, won't you? Sweet pea.

Edited 9 Feb 10, 12:36 AM by Charlie_G

And dealing with your first paragraph - yes, whilst at the end of the session I was being untied, carefully taking off a maid's costume and various levels of undergarments, and getting dressed and for a short time afterwards I chatted to the P.D.'s about how they ended up doing the job. And they replied. They may not have told the truth. Or not the whole truth. But that's what they said.

And yes I'm a "nice" person. The most common description of me in all areas of my life is that I'm "nice". I don't think it's always a good thing.

This is bad form indeed.

“Some people never go crazy, What truly horrible lives they must live”

so do you post on this forum because your a pro-domme or a closet sub?

Certainly food for thought.

There is I suppose a question over whether under your definition I've ever sessioned with a TWUE Pro Domme.

Thinking of the main two of the "Pro Dommes" that I have seen.

One came from (or for the benefit of certain critics one TOLD me she came from) a background as an escort. That said she had impressively equipped, if a long way short of immaculately maintained, premises and was obviously catering for significant numbers of Fetish clients.

The second CLAIMED to have gone into Pro Domming from lap dancing - she got invited to one session and immediately took to it. Not as well equipped but she and her premises were exquisitely maintained. Still during one session with her I was so carried away that I did something that would generally cross the Mistress/ sub boundaries.

Although one I found via IC she was not a part of the "scene" here - no network, no posts. I think most of the P.D.'s here might class both women as prostitutes rather than P.D.'s although I don't think either offered "Full" sex.

The other issue is that for both women this was definitely a job, at least with me.

The first one was the with whom I had the bad experience. She was actually pretty good at her job, she was just rather lazy. She had the habit of vanishing off for an hour or so (this HADN'T been agreed) during the session. Not so bad when I'd been tasked with cleaning a room. Definitely more problematic when she'd left me tightly hogtied and gagged. But she was, by pro Domme standards, very cheap.

I suspect most men go to Pro Dommes not primarily because they want someONE different from their usual partner, but because they want someTHING that their usual partner won't do. That's one of the reasons why BDSM reaslly freaks out some vanillas - because it is all about the WHAT, not about the WHO.

So when I went to see a Pro Domme there was specific stuff that I wanted to do. And the problem is that you're caught between two conflicting desires. One is that you do want to try new things. But you don't want to miss out on what really turns you on. It's like being in a restaurant - do you choose something new every time or will you order your favourite dish every time ?

And for me I'm an occasional user of Pro Dommes. So if the particular session isn't good I don't usually have the option of doing it better next week. The temptation is to give the P.D. quite a detailed script - and if they don't like that you may have to pick someone else.

It's not necessarily that I'm unwilling to try new things - just that at £120 per hour it doesn't seem the right time to experiment. Plus for the P.D.'s with whom I was sessioning, as I said before, I got the impression it was a job thing for them - I gave money, they gave service. That was what they wanted.

That said it's sometimes the things that you haven't specifically mentioned that give you the biggest charge. I remember for the first Pro Domme she'd dressed me as I wanted, tied me up as I'd wanted, gagged me as I'd wanted. On leaving the room she gave me a cuff round the head - not hard - for being a cheeky or gobby cow. Still turns me on years later.