Enquiry ends in disappointment (96)

Sometimes you just don't click, sometimes the scenario isn't your thing - there are a multitude of reasons why a PD might refuse a potential client.

But on the plus side, it's a positive thing that PDs won't just take your money. Most actually do put a lot of thought into their clients and sessions.

Good luck with future sessions

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Which is why, if I got in that situation now, I'd ask why the lady had decided not to go ahead.

I think (hope ) most PDs would give an honest answer

They'd probably give a diplomatic answer

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Exactly. As Mistress Susannah posted earlier, it's not something personal, it's a hunch based on our own experience or quite simply, alarm bells ringing for one reason or another. I don't keep tabs, but I must turn down more than 50% enquiries. If it doesn't feel right or I don't feel I gel or relate to the other person's idea about the session, I won't see them. This said, 80% of people I turn down, I do because they sound like very obvious time wasters who won't bother to turn up, nothing else.

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Edited 7 Feb 10, 12:17 PM by Ms_Tytania_London

Sometimes sessions are refused for other reasons, this could be that the person ringing is non respectful or even arrogant ( I am not for one minute suggesting the OP was either of these)

In my book, its self preservation. I do not want to spend two hours of my life with someone that it would seem like a fortnight with, just because they are paying me.

With the non timewasters that you turn down, if you don't mind me asking, what are the most common reasons for not gelling. Does it tend to be things like guys just presenting a "shopping" list for a session (summarised, an exact idea for a session), having no idea what they what from a session etc?

Try again. Fail again. Fail better. - Samuel Beckett

I refuse applications for a number of reasons

• I don't like their attitude and can detect arrogance or assumption
• I don't like their idea of what femdom is. Some of them really do think we are dolls to be dressed up and programmed
• Their interests don't match mine
• From their answers I can see that they haven't read or understood my site
• They haven't indicated enough interests to interest me
• They are prescriptive and have a specific scenario that doesn't interest me
• They don't appear to be receptive to new ideas or experiences
• Their primary reason to wish to see me is because I am local to them

"If no sexual offence is being committed it seems very odd indeed that there should be an offence for having an image of something which was not an offence," Lord Wallace of Tankerness
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Thanks for the explanation

Try again. Fail again. Fail better. - Samuel Beckett

I have to say though, I do turn down prospects because it *is* personal. Sometimes I simply don't like the tone of email or voice, the person doesn't seem to match my interests or generally just doesn't 'do' it for me.

The decision to not see someone for me is usually instinct based, in other words, I can't always give a satisfactory explanation. It's just based on that gut feeling, knowing it's not someone I want to see.

As is this one

But, maybe, sometimes an honest answer will be more helpful and productive in the long run than a diplomatic one