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Cheek vs disrespect (39)

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Cheeky = Benny Hill style fun

Nothing better than trying to deflect a crop with a pillow while your being chased around the house. Until your cornered you get the stern voice and have to face your punishment.

I quite like the idea of a hamster stampede.
How can we grow old when we are not trying *The Delays
All this Alpha male posturing is getting tiresome. Just fuck each other and get it over with.

4 Feb 10, 6:26 PM
Outlier
2 yrs

Cheeky is fun, and I enjoy it. Disrespect, however is not acceptable in any form.

"I am from nowhere and everywhere" Karl Lagerfeld

4 Feb 10, 6:34 PM
MissKimberley
NL, 8 yrs

lil_Pup wrote:
Cheeky = Benny Hill style fun

Nothing better than trying to deflect a crop with a pillow while you're being chased around the house. Until you're cornered, you get the stern voice and have to face your punishment.

Oh and you really *hate* being beaten don't you... You never do it on purpose just cos you like me chasing you and then growling at you or anything...

“During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act” - George Orwell

4 Feb 10, 6:36 PM
lil_Pup
NL, 5 yrs

MissKimberley wrote:

lil_Pup wrote:
Cheeky = Benny Hill style fun

Nothing better than trying to deflect a crop with a pillow while you're being chased around the house. Until you're cornered, you get the stern voice and have to face your punishment.

Oh and you really *hate* being beaten don't you... You never do it on purpose just cos you like me chasing you and then growling at you or anything...

Erm Yes not sure I have ever noticed you growling though.....

I quite like the idea of a hamster stampede.
How can we grow old when we are not trying *The Delays
All this Alpha male posturing is getting tiresome. Just fuck each other and get it over with.

4 Feb 10, 6:37 PM
Corwin
UK(L), 10 yrs

subette wrote:
Oh - I would so love to know the answer to this... I am quite cheeky normally but find myself treading sooooo carefully in D/s because I don't want it to come across as disrespect.

Subette

I agree with you completely.

I find it hard at times to judge the point at which my natural cheekiness isn't appropriate.

Though I think that is part of learning with your Dom/me about this through talking or trial and error.

The key is the learning aspect of it, once you find where the boundary lies, remembering that and not repeating the behaviour.

"I would rather have had one breath of her hair, one kiss of her mouth, one touch of her hand, than eternity without it. One." - Seth (City of Angels)

4 Feb 10, 7:11 PM
strongarm
CH, 5 yrs

Real disrespect is like a permanent safe word; if you really feel like that, then off you go, we are done.

As to the difference between stroppy and cheeky, I may not always be fair in deciding but the coin I toss is. Except when I decide to cheat of course.

4 Feb 10, 7:29 PM
fluffy_welsh_angel
UK(DN), 5 yrs

I like to think I am more cheeky/playful thank disrespectful

Mew

4 Feb 10, 8:01 PM
subette
2 yrs

El_Presidente wrote:
I really don't think you have anything to worry about though, subette. You're very thoughtful, and I can't imagine you coming out with anything that's genuinely disrespectful. Cheekiness, on the other hand, is just something that comes out when you start to relax, and when the mood is right, a little bit of playful but respectful banter rarely goes amiss.

Maybe I should just give up trying to correct my typos after I have posted...

4 Feb 10, 8:20 PM
Red_Nic
UK(B), 3 yrs

Generally, I'd call something disrespect if it continued after the Dom gave a clear indication that he wanted it to stop or didn't like it. Or if it's deliberately aimed to hurt. Cheek is generally amusing and if it didn't appear to be going down as such I'd stop, it's very much about reading the situation and appropriate timing.

Sometimes I seem to end up being called cheeky by Doms when in reality I'm not being at all, in fact sometimes it feels as if anything I say will be called cheeky. Again, all about perception.

4 Feb 10, 9:01 PM
yareli
NL, 5 yrs

MissP wrote:

El_Presidente wrote:
The reason there are no hard and fast rules is that it all comes down to the intention behind the cheekiness. If it's meant in a genuinely playful way, then it will be met with a playful response, whereas if the undertone of it is disrespectful, then the underlying attitude behind it might have to be examined and possibly corrected more robustly.

Yes and no.

If the dominant is in a crap mood, the same cheekiness may very well reap an entirely different result.

Or simply if he/she feels devious and wants to keep said sub on his/her toes.

"I am just about at the end of my rope with you."
"Well, then why don't you tie a noose and slip it around your neck?"

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