Tell me why (I don't like Munches) (25)

Yeap, i love my 'Mike get's to talk to the village idiot sessions'.

Mike.

The Putney Munch putneymunch@gmail.com

That didn't bother me. After all if I went to a photography club sooner or later I'd expect someone to ask me what kind of camera I favour. It's just that this weblog was generated as a bit of an annoyed rant after reading a whole 'munches are wonderful' thread in which I'm pretty sure they said this wouldn't happen. I just wanted to say, in my experience, it does.

I think that's a great idea! I didn't realise some were coffee shop munches. That sounds much more like a natural environment for me anyway. Thank you!

I don't necessarily get more attention than other females, it's just that I have never learned the art of getting rid of unwanted attention, although I think most others have. I seriously lack assertiveness in a few situations. That's one of them. My friends would probably say I am amiable but can be a hapless idiot. They would probably be right. It certainly has nothing to do with BDSM. (I see very few other hapless idiots on here as far as I can tell).

I should make it clear that the 'genitals' incident was not at this munch but long ago and far away.

I don't want to 'name and shame' the munch as it seems to be a well established and reputable meet, where a lot of people were having a great time. I repeat, the errors in judgement were mine.

...rushing in where angels fear to tread
...burning bridges before they've even been built, but my don't the flames look pretty?

I'm sorry to hear you had a bad experience... let's hope this blog helps them to understand that good behaviour impresses people more than bad behaviour does.

Each munch has its own character.... I hope the next one you attend (if you decide to go to another) is a more pleasant experience for you.

x

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The last one about three years ago was an unusual one, in that as I was on my way to the loo, a guy touched my arm and said "Hello! How are you? So nice to see you here!" and basically acted like he knew me. That threw a bit of confusion my way, because of what I do (artist), a lot of people do know me even if I don't know them. The fact it could also have been me having a facial memory lapse, I was my usual polite and cheery self and just said "Fine thanks, sorry, I'm just trying get over there..." pointing to the doors. As I tried to squeeze through the crowd, his hand slid down my back, to my arse and he gave me this almighty, really slimey grope!

I was pretty stunned by that, I can tell you!

Still busting for a pee, I turned and made it very clear to the the guy to never try that again or all hell would break loose, and then I quietly let one of the regular guys there know what had happened, so they could keep an eye on him and make sure he didn't do it to anyone else.

I can handle myself, and accept that people can be pillocks and outright get it wrong and pressume munches are like some sort of pre swinging set up if they've never been to one before, which of course they're not! But it can be pretty frightening to someone new who'd have no idea if that was a regular occurance or not. So, he'd been told and warned.

Off I toodles to the loo, leaving the regulars keeping an eye on him. He only did it again! This time, it was to a new girl.

Anyway, long story short resulted in regulars physically throwing the guy out of the place after he'd tried the hard man thing, threatening the regular who'd tried to set him straight on his unacceptable behaviour. BIG mistake, as in HUGE! As he found out

If anything ever happens like that, just let the munch organisers or regulars know, as no one I know, at any munch I've ever been to, would tollerate such behaviour for pretty obvious bloody reasons!

Don't be put off from attending, you're bound to come across an arse once in a while at any regular pub or club you go to. The difference with munches is that there are plenty of people there who'll end the problem there and then, it IS very rare, as it's a rare fool who will think their actions will go unnoticed.

Tracie

edited for typos

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Edited 10 Feb 10, 11:08 PM by prettyname

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