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| 31 Jan 10, 11:03 PM Thistle US, 4 yrs  |
Hi. I didn't think you were specifically addressing me. I just thought you'd taken it to an extreme that may have evolved off-topic as you seemed to be confronting issues that were more about mental health than relationship comfort. My comment was half sarcasm and half where are you going with this, but I did mean the sarcasm to be good-natured. I apologize if it didn't seem that way.
love the brave but avoid cowards, knowing the gratitude of cowards is small ~Praxilla of Sicyon | ||
| 31 Jan 10, 11:18 PM areyouok 2 yrs |
Thanks for that Praxilla, it's always difficult to impart tone in text, and I can see that my supposedly light-hearted joke about me successfully managing my slight hygiene obsession was badly executed. | ||
| 1 Feb 10, 10:07 PM RebekkaRaynor UK(SW), 6 yrs £ |
Lol! In personal relationships I don't mind if toys were used by someone else, but in the case of insertables, I prefer that we use something that belongs to them. Either that, or we go out and buy insertables together, and they then get that as a gift.
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| 3 Feb 10, 9:44 PM gingerbread UK(TW), 3 yrs |
I always have a moment of yuck if it comes to using pre-used stuff... I always said I would never use a used vibe, nothing insertable but found once tied to a bed by two beautiful ladies all good intentions of checking the cleanliness go out of the window! Stuff like floggers and whatnot I would be fine with, unless they had in the past drawn blood but to be honest I cant see me with someone who was into that.... I seem to attract the more gentle type o Dom! I do however have my own gag, a bit gag cos I hate ball gags and the idea of using something in my mouth makes me squick more than insertables for other areas... odd that! (RAH)² (AH)³ + RO (MA + MAMA) + (GA)² + OOH(LA)² = Bad Romance | ||
| 4 Feb 10, 2:37 PM anaiis 2 yrs |
It is no problem for me to reuse toys like canes and whips but I´m glad that my master bought me a new mouth gag 
When we buy toys together or he selects new stuff on his own for OUR special desires than they sometimes gain in importance or become an own "story" more easily. | ||
| 8 Feb 10, 10:55 PM Trussedworthy UK(NW), 5 yrs  |
Pretty much exactly that. Anything for "intimate" use where hygiene may be a concern or with personal, emotional or sentimental connotations I wouldn't re-use. I'm not into DS deeply enough to do the collaring thing, nor do I get stuff made to measure so no worries on those counts. I tend to buy high quality toys (as a switch both for use on and by me) and have a large collection of bondage cuffs, chains, etc and hitty things (which never get used to break the skin), and view using them pretty much as you might cutlery, plates or chairs. Well you wouldn't change them after your GF left or after any visitors would you, and other people using them wouldn't remind you of a previous partner. Some of the toys even get taken to clubs if I'm going somewhere "playful". Truth be told I buy far too much stuff anyway so much of it has hardly been used and any new partner would quickly have many brand new toys to play with. | ||
| 8 Feb 10, 11:57 PM Vareox UK, 2 yrs |
It's just tools, really. If we're happy to reuse condoms on different women, and we've all done it, surely there's no problem reusing canes, floggers, restraints, gags etc.
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| 9 Feb 10, 12:59 PM T5Tart UK(MK), 5 yrs |
I dont reuse collars ..I have a play collar that goes with a set of cuffs..that has no significance...but an actual collar I would never reuse they have significance.... I have had many a play partner but only 3 properly collared subs...the last I left her collar with her as it was her first the only thing is I hope she doesnt re wear it while playing with someone else
"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." ~Marilyn Monroe. Edited 9 Feb 10, 1:00 PM by T5Tart | ||
| 9 Feb 10, 1:38 PM angelbrat UK(SM), 3 yrs |
Speaking from a personal P.O.V i wouldnt be too happy about toys or other such paraphinalia being used on me second hand - however, they are just toys and i could get over that by using an objectification mind set. However, a collar - different matter entirely!!! AB If i had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isnt | ||
| 9 Feb 10, 7:36 PM twistit69 UK(CW), 3 yrs |
This particular thread seems to repeat itself, the last was regarding collars that have for me to many personal memories to be used with anyone else. As for restraints I used to make my own but since getting rid of my sewing machine ( a heavy duty Singer for leather work ) I have had to purchase these on-line. Making my own stuff was very personal to me as was its use and on who. I suppose you put more emotion into making your own rather than buying so I would rather put these items in a box with my memories. Bought stuff I'm not sure I would have to think it through when or if the time came. |
