What does it mean to be a submissive woman? (38)

You can only be submissive to someone else. You can be as submissive as you like in your own head, but if you don't interract then it's just all air isn't it?

I couldn't possibly analyse why I do the things H asks me to do, or demands me to do, other than we get along quite well and he doesn't ask or demand too much. Or if he does he makes sure there's an incentive. Giftage is an easy swayer for me. I have had periods where I have felt frustrated and puzzled by TPE, and periods where I've settled in. Over umpteen years of domlyness I have learnt to get along with whatever state I'm in. Most people do.

So if you wanted to, you could call me a Pavlov's dog kinda sub. Truth to tell you can 'type' me any way you want to, it's all nit picking nonsense in any event as the wonderfulness of people generally is their adaptability.

Edited 29 Jan 10, 4:20 PM by benevolentviolence

Hardly a surprise.

Your profile states you are male.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

Yeh I very much agree on the sliding scale thing. And I think where a particular individual lies on the scale at any one point in time will depend greatly on the other half of the relationship.

In order to know virtue, we must first aquaint ourselves with vice - Marquis De Sade

I am submssive, it is part of who I am, the same as I am a mother, a friend, a lover, a career woman etc...they all make me who I am. All intermingled, all demanding a slice of my time and psyche, all at my core.

I have given him my sexuality by my own choice the same way that I make the tea and coffee, make the dinner when he is with me. Because I want to, because it fulfills my needs by fulfiling his. He gets to choose some of my clothes, but only in so much as he can say 'wear a skirt today', the choice of skirt is mine, my way of expressing who I am, and if there is a reason I can't wear a skirt I will tell him and know that he will understand if I have a genuine reason. Just as if there is a reason he wants me to wear something for a specific reason then I will listen to him and conceede where possible.

But having said that, if I had had a bad day at work, my daughter was ill and I was tired would I want him to make me a cup of coffee, cook dinner and help tidy up? Absolutely, as part of his commitment to me (is the same as mine is to him) is to look after me, to care for me, to protect me and he does it very well. Do I want him to juggle my finances or make my decisions or run my life? Absolutely not, I am more than capable of it and its part of who I am.

Would I be lost without him? Yes I would but I would survive and continue to live my life and to find happiness and fulfilment in it.

My submission is tempered by my other commitments, it cannot be my whole world as I do not live in a box. I hold a job, I am a Mum, a sister, a friend and daughter...and each one of those relationships are just as vital to me as my Masters...they make me who I am, the person my Master chose. I will not compromise them any more or any less than I will my relationship with him.

And this works for me, for us, its not everyones way but its mine, ours.

I am me in all my personas...submission is fundamental to who I am, it is at my core, but equally so is being independent, being a mum and a sister, etc.

Tazallie
Getting there!

Thanks.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

Practise senseless acts of beauty.