5 Feb 10, 10:09 PM
Lord_Gobbimort
6 yrs
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Thing i find is be fun, genuine, know what your about and you cant go wrong in the scene. Rember it is all about making friends and having fun whilst trying to meet someone who is right. Try to keep in mind, especally as a sub that no one is obliged to do anything and as a sub you have to think about what you bring to the party.
Dont pressure any one, bear in mind that we are a small scene and a rep, good or bad can be tough to shift.
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5 Feb 10, 10:12 PM
the_unsub
2 yrs |
Gobomandias wrote:
as a sub you have to think about what you bring to the party.
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Meaning? Try again. Fail again. Fail better. - Samuel Beckett
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5 Feb 10, 10:21 PM
Lord_Gobbimort
6 yrs
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the_unsub wrote:
Gobomandias wrote:
as a sub you have to think about what you bring to the party.
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Meaning?
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That some subs are all about being pleasured how they want. The key and the real nice flavour in being a Dom/me is in Ds. Difficult to enjoy if your partner is constantly bratting, winding you up, nagging cos there not getting the play they want.
Think about if your in a club and you see a single Domme on her own by the bar, do you think "i wonder if she will play with me" or "i wonder what she is like"?
works both ways mind. I when as a sub am put off by anyone who thinks they can play with me just cos im a sub.
also think about if you were at a swinging club do you think im going to fuck her, or i will buy her a drink and talk to her, find out what she is like and if we could be friends.
To summerise the point im trying to make is that we may be subs and Dom/mes, but we are all feeling people too. |
5 Feb 10, 10:30 PM
the_unsub
2 yrs |
Gobomandias wrote:
the_unsub wrote:
Gobomandias wrote:
as a sub you have to think about what you bring to the party.
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Meaning?
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That some subs are all about being pleasured how they want. The key and the real nice flavour in being a Dom/me is in Ds. Difficult to enjoy if your partner is constantly bratting, winding you up, nagging cos there not getting the play they want.
Think about if your in a club and you see a single Domme on her own by the bar, do you think "i wonder if she will play with me" or "i wonder what she is like"?
works both ways mind. I when as a sub am put off by anyone who thinks they can play with me just cos im a sub.
also think about if you were at a swinging club do you think im going to fuck her, or i will buy her a drink and talk to her, find out what she is like and if we could be friends.
To summerise the point im trying to make is that we may be subs and Dom/mes, but we are all feeling people too.
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Holds true in the vanilla world too Try again. Fail again. Fail better. - Samuel Beckett
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5 Feb 10, 10:32 PM
Lord_Gobbimort
6 yrs
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the_unsub wrote:
Gobomandias wrote:
the_unsub wrote:
Gobomandias wrote:
as a sub you have to think about what you bring to the party.
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Meaning?
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That some subs are all about being pleasured how they want. The key and the real nice flavour in being a Dom/me is in Ds. Difficult to enjoy if your partner is constantly bratting, winding you up, nagging cos there not getting the play they want.
Think about if your in a club and you see a single Domme on her own by the bar, do you think "i wonder if she will play with me" or "i wonder what she is like"?
works both ways mind. I when as a sub am put off by anyone who thinks they can play with me just cos im a sub.
also think about if you were at a swinging club do you think im going to fuck her, or i will buy her a drink and talk to her, find out what she is like and if we could be friends.
To summerise the point im trying to make is that we may be subs and Dom/mes, but we are all feeling people too.
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Holds true in the vanilla world too
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indeed. However i think in the scene the seeing people as just subs or Doms and what they can do for me is quite prevailent. |
5 Feb 10, 10:54 PM
misfit
UK, 3 yrs
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the_unsub wrote:
Dealing with dry spells
I'm interested in hearing how subs deal with (potentially extended) dry spells. Does this affect your "balance" and does this have any affect on your day to day life? (From experience when I've played or acted submissively I've become more confident, more assertive for a while)
Does compartmentalisation help? If so what are the best ways to go about it? If not can anyone suggest things that have worked?
Maybe someone should write a lone subs survival guide 
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I find myself behaving in a more volatile manner. Small things are more likely to annoy me and my temper is more likely to flare up.
M Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it.
I know I'm being used, that's okay cause I like the abuse.
I can resist everything except temptation.
It's always funny until someone gets hurt and then it's just hilarious.
Cake or Death?
She'll tie a noose with your heartstrings
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