Recognising Subspace?? (53)

Are there common signs and symptoms I will be able to recognise?

Thanks A x

Edited to add thanks, forgot my manners in my eagerness to ask, lol.

Edited Mon 25 Jan 10, 4:48 PM by Adomination

I've played with three people who have gone into subspace with me, and each one has been different. Knowing they have been in subspace rather than are in subspace is usually a little easier to spot. From my experience, when they come out, it is as though they have just woken up.

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Edited 25 Jan 10, 4:57 PM by Lady_Satigny

Take me for example....i don't do it all the time, but Sir knows me well enough to be able to put me there and take me out seemingly at will....Wwe have been playing together for three years however.

It all comes with experience... after your sub tells you they spaced in a session, you will be able to look back at it and perhaps start to recognise the signs. Then you will remember what it was you were doing that sent them there....then sooner or later you will be able to control this more and more.

Every sub experiences space (if they do at all) differently. The secret is to get to know yours really well...

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It does vary from sub to sub though, as their own sub space will vary. The more you play with one sub or many the easier it will get to spot.

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Each of these things can happen idependantly or all together in a session. Sir can drop me in and out verbally aswell but just in play mode with playmates it varies enormously.

Just watch your sub for changes in body language and perhaps mood,then afterwards try to remember what changes..if any..took place before/during/after. This is assuming they space and subsequently tell you.

jules.x

*also sighs*... I don't *think* I've experienced subspace either...

But...

I will often be very disoriented after play and it will take me a while to 'come out of it', to form coherent sentences and I might cry or laugh uncontrollably... It does feel like I have just 'woken up' when the play is over... But whilst I'm learning to relax into the pain, and can sometimes click into just accepting it, I have *never* yet got to a point where it doesn't hurt anymore... So, I don't think I've subspaced... I call what happens to me as getting a little floaty... I'm thinking it might be part of my journey towards finally experiencing this nirvana where pain doesn't hurt...

I find myself agreeing with most of the comments here already, but this one stood out. Especially the comment about stringing a coherent sentence together.

I don't go into subspace every time I play, especially if I'm in a club and it is noisy. I float best when in a quiet room or with light background music. Nothing too distracting.

I'm normally indecisive, but when in subspace I'm hopeless. When asked a question, it can take several seconds for the question to register, and then another second or two before I realise I am expected to respond. Several more seconds (or minutes in my mind) will pass before I can formulate an answer. Which is usually along the lines of 'I don't know'. Because I genuinely don't. Questions like: "are you thirsty", "do you want to stop or continute?", "have you had enough?" - I honestly won't know the answer too.

If I'm not too far gone, and if the Dom is patient, I might actually be able to get some words to come out of my mouth, although they won't be much help.

The tell tale sign that I'm in subspace is that the pain stops hurting. I can go into subspace without reaching this point, but this is a sure sign that I'm long gone. A smack of a cane that a moment ago made me jerk and caught my breath, will go unnoticed at this point. I probably won't even flinch. That's when it gets good. When I can just leave the pain at the impact point and walk away - so to speak.

Pen

You say Ouch like it's a bad word.

Sounds like subspace to me Rose. And Dee, I wouldn't worry. A lot of people experience what I'd describe as subspace and don't realise it. It comes more easily when not looking for it.

Subspace is essentially akin to deep meditation (in my most humble opinion). So feeling disoriented, struggling to form coherent sentences, strong emotions like crying or laughing and the feeling of waking up, are all part of it.

When I go into subspace, it is like the world around me slowly fades away. Fist distant noises go, like the traffic outside, or the voices of people talking on the edge of the play area. Then you forget you are in a building, forget the room around you. Before long the only things you are aware of are the bonds holding you, the pain or pleasure being inflicted and the voice of the person doing it. You can hear other things, if you focus, but they sound as if they are coming down a long tunnel.

To be honest, the pain never goes away. I feel every stroke, even when in deep subspace. The difference is that I can just leave it at the impact point. I don't have to let it travel up my body and reach my mind. I am nearly out of my body watching the ripples on the skin. And if I want, I can limit the pain to the few inches where the skin physically ripples from the impact. It hurts, but it can't reach me. Not unless I let it or the person changes instruments or suddenly hits much harder. But then I quickly adjust to the change and can let go of it again.

Does any of that make sense?

Pen

You say Ouch like it's a bad word.