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| Sat 23 Jan 10, 8:47 AM Trance_Former 4 yrs  |
Allowing some to have sex with you ..the ultimate submission ? Trance | |
| 23 Jan 10, 8:55 AM xDLPMx UK, 2 yrs |
I don't tend to 'allow' someone to 'have sex with me'. I tend to try to participate myself... | |
| 23 Jan 10, 8:59 AM passion8 UK(SW), 3 yrs  |
Not necessarily. Sex does not have to be a submissive act; it depends on the circumstances and the dynamic. There are many more intimate or intense acts I can think of that require me to put aside my sense of self and into the hands of another. I have a tendancy to go into very deep subspace (almost unconscious) with CP. Allowing myself to go there - rather than fighting it - which makes me extremely vulnerable is a greater sense of submission to me than sex This is not just any scene, This is an S&M scene xx Edited 23 Jan 10, 9:00 AM by passion8 | |
| 23 Jan 10, 9:28 AM Eclectic_shock UK(SW), 7 yrs |
In my case, its a gift Power corrupts; absolute power is even more fun | |
| 23 Jan 10, 9:28 AM flamesdesire UK(OX), 4 yrs |
No, Not for me.
Doing things the right way and the way he likes them.
Not being my usual cheeky lippy self.
Doing as I am told.
etc etc It is not just one thing for me, it is lots of little things. jxx | |
| 23 Jan 10, 10:29 AM Mabesque UK(LS), 3 yrs |
So both (or however many) partners in the sex act are submitting to each other? Well, I suppose they are sharing vulnerability, at least. I suspect this isn't what you meant though. You can't change the direction of the wind, but you can adjust your sails. | |
| 23 Jan 10, 11:29 AM Elegantly_Wasted UK(SG), 7 yrs |
lol...
Great reply "Put your Ego's down - I've told you before not to play with them...." | |
| 23 Jan 10, 11:46 AM Ms_Valentine UK, 3 yrs |
Nope, sex with my sub is done when I want, how I want and to whatever conclusion I want. There is not one ounce of me submitting in this act. I am at a loss to think how there could be. There is however, love, desire, satisfaction, pleasure and shared intimacy and those are what makes it wonderful in addition to the fact he is submitting to me at all times during sex. 24/7 subs and slaves can and do live similar lives, it is only the concept of 'ownership' which separates them. | |
| 23 Jan 10, 3:28 PM NickiB UK(BS), 2 yrs |
I'd suggest it's rather the reverse.. Isn't it an example of control?
Nicki | |
| 23 Jan 10, 3:32 PM MisterBear UK(WA), 8 yrs  |
So dominants who have sex are secretly submissives and only chaste dominants are actually dominant? I always behave. I just don't specify how. | |
| 23 Jan 10, 3:32 PM Sarcasma 3 yrs |
Sorry to be pedantic, but if you're the one "allowing" something, how can that be submissive, surely it's the dominant one who does the allowing in this case, no? Could just be me being daft.... |
