Strange sessions - in a good way (9)

By strange I don't mean wacky weird stuff, but just when you had mapped out a plan and he has mentioned certain interests and limits, the session itself then somehow ends up going in a completely different direction where you're pushing limits, doing play that he has said he isn't into and things just kind of work extremely well because of that?

It's happened to me occasionally, but usually only with someone I know well, and I'm wondering if I'm alone?

I dont understand your question enough, to elaborate, but good for you anyways

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MistressRouge wrote: I am quite selfish with My sessions, I call the shots, no exceptions I dont understand your question enough, to elaborate, but good for you anyways

It wasn't about who's calling the shots... That's stating the obvious *just* a little!

What I mean is that I occasionally have a session that ends up being nothing like what I, or the sub, had planned, or had in mind, or necessarily would usually enjoy. But it somehow just goes off on a tangent and ends up being really rather fun and you discover new things - about yourself and about him/her. It doesn't happen to me often in pro sessions, mostly these little meanderings happen with people I know well and have a deeply emotional connection with (ie my partner). It doesn't happen with people I barely know and haven't sessioned with before - usually, anyway.

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MissKimberley_1 wrote: If I'm not making sense I will shut up

I get it (I think!!)

We don't plan our sessions at all. She'll run it on the day depending on how she feels and how she senses I am. We do "core activities" but the sessions can go different ways beyond those.

I don't think they go off on a tangent as much as you are suggesting but I'd emphasise the lack of "pre planning" which I think is a bit more prevalent than some believe - especially, as you say, for those who are regulars

I tend not to be massively prescriptive in planning a session, and go mainly on what gets a reaction from the sub, particularly in an initial session. I usually negotiate beforehand, particularly to find out likes and rule out activities, but tend to let the session develop. Is this something which tends to happen with paying subs, or is there more planning involved? From what I have read - and I freely confess my ignorance here - male, paying subs can be fairly demanding or specific. God knows the non-paying sort are bad enough. How far do dommes seek to set an agenda and stick to it, rather than use a more laissez-faire approach?

Edited 11 Feb 10, 4:36 PM by McThunderpants

Pro Dommes have very different ways of working. Some demand al of the control all of the time, some will do whatever the client wants, most are somewhere inbetween.

For me, it really depends on the dynamic of the client and their motivation. Some want to serve and will do anything and make no demands at all, some want a bit of input because they may have had a nightmare of a PD who tied them up and then buggered off for lunch, only returning to give them a cursory wank and others just want to know exactly what and when but allow me a free rein because they trust me.

I personally prefer a bit of input because they reveal more about themselves that can then be used as a carrot or a stick. These are often the sessions that tend to find their own momentum and their own way which can seem more natural and less contrived than heavily planned sessions or sessions where the PD is in charge and that is that.

A good PD will be able to play according to the dynamic s/he has with that client on that particular day. This is what our job so interesting and so satisfying, the constant shift and sway of playing styles and experiences.

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Gosh, I had to go for a lie in when I spotted them - *fans herself*.

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I went for a session with Lindi St Clair once and ended up spending the entire day and evening with her. She even invited myself and another sub (plus a dominatrix friend of her's) to go and see her boat on the Thames, at a place called Bray. At the end of the evening I attended on her during her bedtime bath, then I climbed on my motorcycle and headed for home.

I ended up spending the next three evenings with her. It was pure magic.

Edited 11 Feb 10, 8:05 PM by Super_Slut_321

Cool when stuff like that happens isn't it, it always makes me smile

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